In this day an age more and more people are getting divioce. I've been married for eigthteen years. An this Jan. I conforted my W after months of feeling that she was having an affair. She was doing the samethings as she had twelve years ago wen she hadher first affair. A couple months later she came clean the affair had never stopped.
I was deeply hurt and depression sit in. We are still togeher and are go to a Christian MC.There has been time when I wanted to bail. However, thanks t friends and our MC. We're doing everything we can to stay together. The easy thing wouldof been to divoice. It hasn't been easy there has been time when I wanted to leave and then also, been thoughts of getting even. As for the OM it's taken time to forgive him and also my W. What has helped the most is the word of God and pray. Our MC give us a book to read After the Affair. Great reading. I could relate. So, to stay for the kids to me is no reason to stay married. However, to run and not face the problems is not te solution either. As a Cristian it is better to stay if the other party wants to stay. I've learn it takes time to heal. Even if your spouse dosen't seem to be changing hang in there you will be surpised at want God will do ifyu move out of the way. Shower them with love, openness, honesty and forgiveness. I realized that we didn't get to where we are overnight and we're not going to have a wonderful marriage either overnight it's going to take time.