Stever, It's a brand New Year! A clean slate! The old hopefully will pass away-better things to come!
Your most welcome and my pleasure in sending them. I think of the Phil:4:8 and that's where I want to be in my heart and path track I want to follow this year.
[yeppers, ben practicing this script fopr a long time,, and can't seem to keep the ladies away,, lol ]
Like do you wake up everyday-and read your script out 50 times or what? lol lol...
[the other day i recieved a nice e-mail from WW- last night i recieved a different sort of e-mail, not the friendly sorts neither.]
Sorry to hear that. I wonder if she is just really stressed out with her job--sounds like it to me, from what you share about her work and of course what she says the job.
Sounds like the hours, responsiblilies, hours are extremely unreasonably exceedingly demanding.
Build-up of lot of negative stress and pressures. Tension-can do unpleasant things to a person.
Perhaps, your feeling the transference effect of wk pressures/frustrations of that?
[/She's bothered with me cuz i'm not being available until later this eve, and for my not keeping up with her job situation--
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Sounds like she's going through a very difficult time. Doesn't seem fair does it.
[she needed/wanted to return the children ealieer today, cuz with a new account-36- buildings, they need to work an all nighter Sunday-
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There you go--I understand--- sounds like she is under enourmous pressure. Sounds understaffed- this company sounds highly unreasonable and insensitive. Out of touch. Not family friendly place that considers parents and their children.
Heavens I wonder about the personal and homelife of the ceo, or owner of this company???
[]the comment "if i paid attention, then i wouldn't have insulted her,," was added. along with her talking about this since Halloween,,,[/]
errr!!!
IMHO-- here from you share-sounds like she has problems with communication and expressing herself. Like what does she mean exactly by that statement? What is insult to her? Paying attention to what?
Can she you concrete examples, is she clear? Mind reading expectations is not communication?
Anyways, imho-- it seems to me that she is having a difficult time, and frightens very easily. I guess it would be difficult to know how to relate to her and act in
non-threathening way.
Obviously, the approach as she has very little healthy coping skills or God actively in her life to help overcome the tremendous weight and burden of guilt, take ownership for she has done. Repent and find true forgiveness and healing.
Sounds like typical of dsyfunctional families stuff, acting out in denial, then transfering blame of ownership. I find this the most frustrating two areas to deal with it.
You know sounds like on a lot levels she has a lot of unresolved childhood issues. I just pray the both of you can meet with a third party pastor, or someone from your church to reach out to her.
She just sounds like she is really, really hurting. Your approach of going slow, and gentle non-threatening with her is the best.
A good nod, agree with her, and change the subject on to some more positive might be helpful. Since your goal here is reconcilation. Though it is hurtful, bewildering time for the both of you.
It's not easy- been there my friend many,many, many times my x.
Take good care,
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