I always like telling my H how handsome I think he is. I don't lay it on super thick, but I figure he can't tell me enough how much he admires or appreciates me, so I am frequent in my compliment giving.
Of course, we're getting divorced, but I'm proud that I did this.
I liked raised my eyebrows up and down in a sultry sort of way when he'd walk into the room I'm in-- if it was my first time seeing him that day, or that evening.
I also really liked chasing up to him with my hands out like I'm about to squeeze his buns when he'd get out of the shower and be in his bathrobe--I'd tell him I like the way the robe clings to his wet buns!
LOL
If he just shaved, I'd run the backs of my fingers along his jaw and say "good Job."or "Missed a few (if he did), but I love ya anyway."
"love ya anyway, tho..." was a quote I'd say over and over. Whenever I said anything that could possibly be taken offense to regarding his appearance or a mistake he made. He once made my latte wtih whole milk, which he knows I don't like. I said "Ah! This is whole milk!" and then realized I just sort of rudely blurted that out and added "I love you anyway, tho!"
I'd often tell him he mowed the lawn as if he was a golf course manintence man (a former job of his)-- all lines perfectly straight. REally, he gives teh yard excellent yard care, and I always wanted him to know I was amazed. he took yard care to the next level.
When he'd have a good time with my son--if I overheard them talking and getting along like they like each other, I'd always let him catch me eavesdropping with an approving look on my face. Sometimes I'd smile and ask him later "what were you two carrying on about?" or Sounds like the boy really had a lot to say. You two are getting along pretty well these days, aren't you? It's nice to see you growing closer. Does a mother's heart wonders to hear you talking like that with each other." etc...a long those lines.
For Christmas last year, I gothim a pair of leather pants, I said "they're more for me than they are for you" (He knows I like his buns!)
When he'd load the dishwasher or do a domestic chore that wasnt yard work (we had this unspoken that he does yard and I do house agreement) I'd say "Oh, You didn't have to do that! But thank you!" He takes care of all the plants, which are usually extremely healthy and thriving. I comment on it and say "Hey plant guy! The plants are blooming and looking great!"
One thing we have/had going for us was a fair amount of thank you's and your welcomes.
The other day he was being goofy with his name tag which is on a recoiling string so it can be swiped-- he had stuck it to his suit just anywhere while it was folded, and once he was dressed for work, he was looking for it. It happened to be between his legs. I pointed it out to him and he grabbed the name badge and pulled it up "HI I'm John! How can I help?" and let it go. It snapped back to between his legs...anyway I laughed a full hearted laugh! It wouod be really funny to see someone do that at work. I said "You're so funny" and my appreciation really showed through. but, then I felt weird becsue we're getting divorced... and I keep falling into love with him again over stuff like that. So I added "I mean, I think you're funny..."
I just hope the next lady appreciates him as much as I do, and can be nicer to him when he's doing things she doesn't appreciate.
That's the ticket as far as I'm concerned. It's not showing appreciation-- that part's easy for us. It's appreciating each other when we don't like what the other person is doing-- or at least not leading them to beleive they aren't appreciated.
ANy thoughts on that? I'd be curious to know.
Lucy
