Hi all! I've been separated with my wife (4)months ago. Reason is she told me she wants to be alone.

Make the story short (1) month later when I moved out I ask her if she wants me to get a new apartment so my daughter (9 yrs. old)and her can moved in with me away from her parents house.

She told me that she don't love me anymore and she said she filed for divorce, we've been together for 11th years and married for 9th years.(911 bad #) I kinda have a strong feeling that she is inlove with someone and I dont have proof.

I know she is been doing a research online on the divorce.com. Well Friends telling me that they've seen her with another man and I am in denial and when I talked to her about it she is so defensive she gets mad right away and she tells me that she nevers lies to me at all,

until I found out that she has 2 cell phone. One is under my account name and one is secret phone. she told me she dont love and she showed me her phone with camera and I found a picture of a man and saying my1andOnlyLove thats surprise me and she grab the phone from me and she said that (its e-mail address) I beleive her but she didn't know that I forward the picture in my e-mail address and now I have a copy of the picture and she never gave me her new cell phone number but she didn't know that by e-mailing the picture I can get her cell phone number that way. Well I was going to let everything "GO" and I will keep trying to be with her and telling her that all I want is to have Happy Family her response is (not w/ me). She said I was a big mistake or she is a big mistake by getting us married by her parents because of she is pregnant.

Well Halloween 2004 night I called her and her phone keeps ringing and ringing and until mid-night she turn off the phone. I left her voicemail and I text her that I said "its so easy to find out where you at or who you with but I am not going to do that because I just might hurt myself but its so easy" she never responded and never came home until the next day afternoon. So I hack in to her cell phone voicemail remotely and I found (2) saved voicemail messages and when I listen to it.

Its a guys voice calling her Babe and saying love you, love you, love you. when I ask her about it she denies it and I advise her to change the password because I might get through and hear more message and hurt my emotion,

By the way I haven't sleep in (4)months and I don't know what to do drink alcohol, NQuil, well she change her cell phone number instead and since then I haven't talk to her. Our 9th years wedding anniversary is coming up and I sent her card thanking her for the years we've spend together and told her that if she is Happy I am Happy for her too,

I just hope she didn't make a mistake on her decision on her affair, I don't know what to do and I still love her, and all I want is to have is happy family. Please advise what else can I do to gain her LOVE back and posible stop the divorce. I haven't talk to her but all I know is she filed for the divorce but I haven't heard anything.

Time will heal all wounds. Take care of yourself and your kid. Stop trying to persuade her to change her mind.
If she thinks it's a mistake in the future, she will be crawling back to you. Then, you can decide if you want to be with her or not.

In the meantime, you CAN'T possibly do anything to change her action. Focus on yourself, give her space, and respect her.

It's not the end of the world buddy...remember to sleep and take care of your health. We all have been there in one form or another.

Goodluck!

Thank you so much and I feel great about your response. I can get through this! thank you, thank you, thank you,