A friend told me to read this thread.. Just wanted to briefly stop in and say hi...and many times I also think about you guys as well...sometimes I check back and read up and see how everybody's doing.
Life's pretty good. Work is well, getting on with things and the only drama that LH was referring to was about my dog...let my mastiff go to x's b/c he said he missed the dog and had large yard for him, plus he's getting old and I can't lift him anymore. Dog has heart trouble and goes to vet alot. The new wifeypoo one morning a week ago, let the dog out along with x's bulldog without leashes or their collars, and went inside to drink a leisurely cup of coffee...end result was doggie jail for both of them and a hefty fine as well...all during this time, x was in Hong Kong on a 14 day business trip. Luckily, son now stays with me when he's out of town regardless of custody schedule. X Finally saw the light and did the right thing. But only in that one regard. But as my family and close friends know and are in agreement upon, it's b/c his new wife (former ow)doesn't want any responsibility...just wants to sip her coffee in the morning, order around the maid and nanny, and not be bothered...kids and dogs take effort. Sadly, x knows this now. So much for "super step mom" huh?
So I am getting the dog back next week after thanksgiving. Was x's idea and I totally agreed with him on that. Nuff bout that. We also have a new puppy (boston terrier named Ringo) and he's almost 3 months old. Our little home is growing and we're pretty darn happy.
Am working at practices' other satellite office. Doing good. Dating around a bit and just enjoying life now. Mr. Right is out there, but he'll find me when the time is right. Son is reading and doing well in school. Got "best offensive player" on his soccer team for the year. We are going home to TN for thanksgiving next week and going to see some old friends, the grandparents, and my son's great grandparents.
Many thanks to my friends here who helped me get thru a very tough time in my life...in fact, the toughest. Sometimes I just sit back and think...wow, I actually made it thru all this...it was alot. I for sure had my share of tears and heartaches. And with lessened interaction with the x, life is better. Do think things b/w x and his w are strained now as it's evident in alot of things...but that's his business and not mine anymore. And it's ironic the lengths that ws' who marry their affair partners do to both recreate the life they had before with their bs in their new marriage and also rewrite the past to validate their present. X recently exclaimed (out of the blue) during a discussion about the holiday calendar/schedule for son that "nobody knows me or understands me anymore. You just don't know..." I say, "well I hope your W understands you. I do." He said back "When I said nobody, I meant nobody. You used to but that was then." It was kinda sad. Outta nowhere it came. but with time and experience, I am able to not react to him anymore and just got him back on subject to accomplish the goal of setting the calendar...Yea, the affair cycle does follow a script. It has a definite beginning, middle (crappy part), and ending. My marriage ended and did not heal. but some here do heal and work out well. But for those of us who do divorce, I believe we are better in the end for standing up for our beliefs and for our families. Know I am a better and stronger woman now than I was ever before. And you will never know how strong you can become until you are put to a life test.
I wish you all a happy holiday season and if you feel so inclined, drop lost husband a line or orchid or green gables and they can get you in touch w/me...give them your email. God bless <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
