Hi,

Need advices here from MB members. We are going thru a divorce at this point and we both are devastated by the process. The problem with the marriage was because of me due to immaturity, addictions and lies that I caused for her. I am right now seeing a psychologist for help . I am begin see her point of view in how I ended up destroying the marriage and the only possible way for her to be happy is without me in her life. But during this separation time, I learned about her feelings, mine ect and how I truely feel about her.

At this point, she wanted me to leave her alone. No contact whatsoever. I am complying to her wishes as I have stay away for three weeks. I know that she is going thru a lot of pain as am I. The question is, should I even try to email her to see what is going on, if she is ok, need my help,ect. If not, when is the right time. I am going to have to dig in for the upcoming holidays <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .

She has proceed to see someone else at this point. She said that she does not love me anymore and that we should move on. I am taking all the right steps to see if our marriage is still fixable, acknowledging to her my problems. I have read about ‘fog’ talk but I don’t know if this is applicable in our relationship. I am really hurting at this point and just would like to know if I should deal with my problems and let her be till she is comfortable to talk with me again.

Thank You,