My divorce hearing concluded on Monday. I ended up with custody of my children. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
But, it was not easy. It was NOT easy. These are things that were uncontested and proven at trial:

(1) wife tried to kill me by running me over me with her car

(2) wife had three abortions with three different men in the past five years

(3) wife is living with the man she ran off with and was impregnated in Feb. of this year by him

(4) the man she ran off with and is living with has threatenend me on several occasions to where there was a peace order out on him

(5) wife neglected to take our children to the doctor for immunizations for the past two years and failed to let me know about it

(6) failed to follow court orders and has not paid her portion of the children's tuition for the entire year

(7) refused to see the children and did not see them for more than four weeks straight and only sporadically throughout the year

(8) has distanced herself from the children's family and friends and don't know who they are and the family has no means of contacting her
and she no means of contacting the children

(9) has not included herself in any of the children's activities, and

(10) has had every other weekend with the children since she has moved out

And don't you know with ALL of this the judge (female) still managed to say she seems to be a fit and proper parent. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

It was hard for her to justify giving her custody though, but she did give her a very liberal visitation schedule. Anyway, but the worst part of it is she denied my claim for divorce. She said that from an email I sent to her on Dec. 03, it appears that I had forgiven her adultery and have condoned the affair. We proved that right now, today, she is sleeping with another man. We proved that it was very possible that she had sex with this man in the morning before coming to court. Yet, because of an email I sent to her almost a year ago, in which I say, "Are you ever coming back home? I love you" she is free to do whatever she wants to do and I can never file for a divorce on the grounds of adultery.

Needless to say she is dead wrong. The family law statute says that repeated acts of adultery nullifies condonation. But she had a method to her madness. Had she given me the divorce on the grounds of adultery, she would have had a difficult time in justifying the "she's a fit and proper parent". We did not just prove one act of adultery. We proved five different men. So to trump all of them she just said, she's fit and there is no grounds for divorce. So...I'm still married to the woman and if the judge has her way, I must remain so until next August (imagine that).

This week I am refiling my claim on grounds of adultery based on the fact that her lover still lives with her today.