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My ex is Mr. Hyde again. Suddenly out of the blue he is threatening me with court over visitation, although I'm not sure what exactly it is he wants.....one moment he accuses me of making him a "glorified babysitter" (because I went to a seminar on costume making while he had the kids one Saturday) and the next I'm victimizing the kids because I don't let him take them overnight. (They go with him every Saturday and many Sundays, I offered him Thanksgiving day, I try to be as flexible as possible; but I don't allow overnights because of his past history of molesting young boys).

I really don't know what to do about him, he's so off the wall.

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I'm afraid you'll have to deal with this stuff until your youngest is 18, at minimum. I know I will. I am nearly four years out and still get the court threats and irrational rantings. [Roll Eyes]

I'm just so glad you are not still married to this guy. Everywhere you turn, you see women clinging to their abusers and defending them at every turn, unwilling to take the risk of leaving, and letting the kids grow up in chaos. [Frown]

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his past history of molesting young boys).

Do you have all the facts on this? Because if you do have reason to believe that this is true, the courts may not allow him any visatation at all, or at best supervised visitation.

Seems like it might not be a bad idea to let him take it to court and let the chips fall where they may. Please, don't let these threats intimidate you.

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This is a cycle. You'll have to break it.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=34;t=012030;p=1

I still think he should be having supervised visits. You are being too nice. He will use that against you.

I don't trust him.

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You're absolutely right, my new husband said I should stop unsupervised visits altogether immediately, which I have decided to do. I don't trust him either.

I guess if he wants to go to court over it, that is what we'll do.

I have to say, my new H is like a Knight in shining armor, always protecting me and defending the kids....he treats them like they were his own and I can see their relationship just blossoming. They don't like it when he's firm and doesn't let them get away with stuff, but they respect him and maybe don't love him yet... but they like him an awful lot. I'm so glad I have him to help me deal with my ex.


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