I have an issue I need help with and I've decided to write here becasue, well, I like the advice I've gotten so far.
It seems every time I come up for air, I have a new decision I need to make. A new problem to solve.
To make a long story short:
There was abuse in our relationship. on both our parts. I was viscious with my tongue and fought him. He fought me physically and the last time he did, I fought back. We had tried to stop, and had even seperated to keep ourselves safe, but to no avial. We were both drunk when it happened and the police were called with my consent because Ihad no idea what else to do. I had had it with abuse and was ready for it to be a thing of the past.
Well, I ended up telling a friend who lives in the town where my H used to live. This friend has been my H's good friend since jr, high. I don't know why I told him but I remember thinking that his true friends needed to know to help him stop.
Anyway, this friend proclaimed his friendship with my H and unyeliding to the news I gave. But that was last April and he hasn't called. not once. He has told other friends since then, and of course, the story has been embellished.
I don't feel dreadfully guilty over this- I can't imagine that just this news was enough to break a friendship so long ago forged and tested by time. But I want to know what I can do to help the situation. I feel badly that my husband has had such major repercussions from all of this: legal fees, a record, anger management, his liceensure could be suspended and he might not be able to work in this state because of it. Poeple at work talking badly about him (he is amazing at his job and his job has nothing to do with it!) Also, he was given a DUI on top of it. AND, AND, he feels he has lost a whole group of friends he felt he was close to.
So, If i can't do anything to help wiht the friendship, what can I do to help my H?
Or can I help sooth the friendship? If so, how?
Any input would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you!
LC