My husband of 24 years just recently told me he wanted out, and that he does not love me. We tried counselling and it seemed to be working, it was going great, and then out of the blue again he said it was over. He has moved out, but we still have contact and do things together, ie dinners movies, he is going to a Christmas party with me on the weekend. He claims the door is shut but not locked what do I do, keep seeing him or not, I still pray often and many times a day that God will heal his heart and bring him home, I still love him, someone help me I am on a roller coaster here

First off, welcome to MB. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Although obviously, your reasons for needing this site aren't wonderful (they rarely are).

Your best bet to start off, is to read up on this site as much as you can. Your goal will be to do your best plan A. Hopefully you won't need to move to plan B, but you'll have the info on here should you need to.

You should also read up on Lovebusters, and be sure to avoid doing them! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> What will help you will be to fill out the lovebuster and emotional needs questionnaires. If you can get your H to do them too, all the better. If he won't, or you're not sure about asking him to do it, then you can fill them out on behalf of him. (hint: a lot of 'his' answers you already know... a good portion of that is from reading between the lines).

And finally, you'll get a far better stream of readers and responses to your posts if you put them in the General Questions II board, or the Emotional Needs board.. they have the biggest turnaround. (hint: you'll get more responses if you yourself respond to many posts as well).

Take care!

Karen