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today my husband called me and was telling me how bad thanksgiving was for him and he told me he has been cutting his chest and arms . This very much disturbs me and idont know how to deal with it . I am not being mean to him he is still my friend .We both accept that we can still do fsmily things.I dont know hopw much nicer i can be short of tsking him back which i will not do. please help.
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"Cutting" is a pretty common thing but he obviously needs some help. If you are concerned for his well-being, it might be wise to call the police, in most states if someone is a danger to themselves the police will take them into protective custody for a mental evaluation.
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As LH said, cutting is pretty common. However, I don't believe that people with this problem generally advertise it.
If he's never had problems such as this before, it may just be a way to get your pitty and attention. I'm no shrink, but I think it would be best if you don't let it get to you.
Perhaps he'll see that it's not getting your attention.
Kindly tell him that this sort of behavior shows that he needs professional help!
WIWH
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At best, this is a cry for help. At worst, it is manipulation. However, the solution is the same either way.
Direct him to a counselor who has experience dealing with self-mutilation. That is how you can help him, without being manipulated into "helping" him on HIS terms with no regard to what terms you need.
If he is cutting himself, he needs a professional. Directing him to a professional is the best help you can give him, and yourself, IMO.
Take care
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passionpromise,
Cutting is very often a hallmark of Borderline Personality Disorder,albeit much more common in females. Please do not take this form of manipulation lightly, he is in the process of "hoovering" you back into the R. Do a Google search on BPD.
Good luck.
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thanks for the info i went and looked and it sounds a lot like him. I was doing pretty well until now. I knew i was doing what i had to do and was content with myself and my choices. This is making me feel bad and guilty.But he has burned his own bridges that is not my fault and i know this. It just isnt always so esy to see it sometimes. you all a great help thanks
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