It is the end of the day now and all has gone very well! I have no clue if things are going to work out or not but right now I fell good about it all. I have been called today by her a few times all were nice friendly calls no yelling or screaming. I think that last night may have helped my stance on us a bit (hard to tell but I can hope). About the date- her reason for not wanting to do that again was that it "just felt wrong" and "he started rumors". The guy she went out with has wanted her since she started there but I have been in the way. People like him tend to be afraid of me (I am not huge but at six foot one nobody is small). I really do not think that she will be going on any more "dates" even just as friends for a long while if ever. I don't know how she goes to work with everybody there having heard the rumors. Wish me luck though tonight she is staying at her sisters house. I could get "murdered" if her sister brings up anything else. I have not talked to her at all in 2 weeks but who knows what sort of thing could be invented. I don't think she would do that but I cannot be certain anymore. At least I know what I want and I know that no matter what happens I have a plan and can carry it out. I also know that I can be happy without her but I would rather be happy with her though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Just an update. She and I ened up in another argument last night. As usual I stayed calm and quiet just reflecting my own feelngs and she got furious and laid into me in public. She also claims to have talked to the lawyer, although she told me nothing else about that. She later stripped nude in front of me and asked for a shir to sleep in (would YOU do that if it was totally over!???!!!) This is driving me crazy! What does she want from me? If she really wants the divorce then why is she still staying at our house? Why is she still paying the bills for me? Why if she has other housing set up what is she doing home? She is just not making sense (still hot though! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> )

She can't let you go yet since she still has feelings for you. She's flip flopping with her decision. She's afraid with either decision. You will need to reaffirm her that you're it.

My stbxw did the same thing to me for many months, even until to this day. Unfortunately, for us, all we do is argue (before it was just her blaming me).

Goodluck!

Finally a simple talk. No raised voices just her and I with our feelings. She tells me that she used to love me but hasn't for a while. I told her that I do love her and I will love her no matter what happens. I also told her that if she used to love me then she could again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I was later struck by her telling me on the phone that she loves me. I think that her feelings for the OM ar fading some because of his rejection of her. Right now I am not going to tell her that I know about him (no sex just feelings) it would just make everything worse. She needs me to be supportive of her and loving. Despite finding out about the OM I have found that it is easy to give her all the love she can handle and still mean it. I have been surprised by my strength. I had no idea that my love for her really was that strong. The divorce papers are now all the way at the back of the computer desk and being buried quickly. I hope that all of this works out but even if it does not I know that I have given it my all.