So I have been posting over in the infedility section under just found out...most of the story is there...I don't know exactly how to excute a divorce in the cheapest way possible....we have only been married a little over a year....it's actually been a year and 2 weeks....but he has had an affair for 6months.....it started off as an emotional affair in may and we seperated in September cause he choose her....then he begged me to come back 6 weeks later and I found out that not only was the affair still going on but it was a physical one now....the PA has been going on since septemer and has been exposed....he won't stop and has no intentions of stopping...he is a liar...we don't have any kids...I don't want alimony or anything from him....how do I get out of this the cheapest....i must remind you this is not what I want but he doesn't want to work on this anymore...he never really was willing to....Help!!I need help getting out of this...I am attached to him and want not to be anymore.

I'm sorry things are rough for you. I don't know what the cheapest way possible would be, but I would advise you to go to divorcenet.com and click on the state you live in. That will give you some state by state information that may help you.

But, remember, with divorce as in so many things, you get what you pay for.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by myrtlerose12478:
<strong>
how do I get out of this the cheapest....i must remind you this is not what I want but he doesn't want to work on this anymore...he never really was willing to....Help!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry for your pain. You may want to look at http://www.nocourtdivorce.com/index.phtml also. It talks about a new concept in divorce called Collaborative Divorce.

The only other piece of advice I will give is if YOU want out of it then YOU file for divorce and encourage your H NOT to get a separate lawyer, particularly if you own no property and have no children. Your lawyer can handle the divorce for both of you and will save you the cost of another lawyer for him. Also, I know of people who handled their divorce completely without a lawyer. Simply go online, find the state you live in, download the paperwork to file with the court, fill it out, sign it in front of a notary, and file it (small filing fee) with the court whose jurisdiction you live in. Six months later, you are legally divorced.

Remember, lawyers get involved mostly to ensure marital property is divided fairly and children are properly taken care of. If you have neither, it may be a simple matter.

In my opinion, if your H is cheating so blatantly after only 1 year of marriage you are probably better off out of it. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Thanks for the websites. It is a good place to start. Have a great day.