</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by myrtlerose12478:
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how do I get out of this the cheapest....i must remind you this is not what I want but he doesn't want to work on this anymore...he never really was willing to....Help!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry for your pain. You may want to look at
http://www.nocourtdivorce.com/index.phtml also. It talks about a new concept in divorce called Collaborative Divorce.
The only other piece of advice I will give is if YOU want out of it then YOU file for divorce and encourage your H NOT to get a separate lawyer, particularly if you own no property and have no children. Your lawyer can handle the divorce for both of you and will save you the cost of another lawyer for him. Also, I know of people who handled their divorce completely without a lawyer. Simply go online, find the state you live in, download the paperwork to file with the court, fill it out, sign it in front of a notary, and file it (small filing fee) with the court whose jurisdiction you live in. Six months later, you are legally divorced.
Remember, lawyers get involved mostly to ensure marital property is divided fairly and children are properly taken care of. If you have neither, it may be a simple matter.
In my opinion, if your H is cheating so blatantly after only 1 year of marriage you are probably better off out of it. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />