My husband was caught in telephone affair 1 week after I gave birth to my little girl(our 4th). She is 4 weeks old today. My husband left us and says he doesn't want to work on the relationship now. He feels that I need to change....which I agree as I never met his EN and had tons of Love Busters. His affair is over as I called OW and she freaked when she found out about me and the kids. But he isn't working on himself or marriage. Just isn't doing anything to his own admission. My EN weren't met and now it seems that I have been the only one willing to work on this. He says that perhaps after we both regain our own identities we could come to the table again to discuss reconciliation but he isn't moving toward changing himself. Am I crazy to wait for him to get through this? I know if I asked for a divorce I would get it and he doesn't seem to mind and almost encourages me to move on.He says I deserve someone who will treat me better. Is there hope?

Welcome to marriagebuilders, a good place to be under the circumstances.

You are very early in this to be thinking about divorce. Read all about Plan A on the link in my signature line. That is the place to start.

Thanks for the reply Believer. My husband has had ongoing issues and affairs for about 5 years now. He was caught up in internet porn ect.....However, I am praying that the Lord will intervene. My husband wants the divorce. Please pray should the Lord lead you.