a warm hello to you,,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Stephan, you are a MB hero to me. Sometimes I can't even post to you because I get a huge lump in my throat. You fought the good fight for your kids and your M. YOu went thru hell and you achieved in getting your kids. I pray for you alot btw my brother. You are a champion among men!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">justpeachy, i must say- you just brought some tears to my eyes,,, i was sooo "touched" by your thoughts.

You hit that sensitive side of me, the softer side,,lol


a huge, tremendously huge, hug to you. filled with all those fabulous thoughts- that go with it.
you know the one, the one that comes from the heart???

(((((thank you))))) with my arms wrapped around you!!! not being to fresh i hope lol


never worry about posting to me,, regardless, always feel free to jump in,, ok?

I remember posting to you a few times in the past,,, i sure was hoping and praying.


i hope your holidays are the best!!!

God bless,, take care-

stever

make it a Glorious day, and rejoice in it.

<small>[ December 12, 2004, 01:27 PM: Message edited by: Stephan ]</small>

Sometimes things don't go the way we thought they would. AFter all, people do have free will and sometimes that will doesn't make the moral or ethical choice in life. And at that point, the other party(ies) involved have to do their job...and yours was stepping up to the plate. Like Job, you initially lost alot. You sure did. I remember too tearing up when I read what you endured. But I knew you wouldn't take it lying down. And as for me, I gather strength from that knowing that my x is like a snake in the corner curled up waiting for the right moment to just pounce on anything I could ever do...he's a jerk and not the man I ever knew. Why? He's hurting himself and he cannot change the wave of events he himself put into motion. So he lashes out with hate and cruelty at me even for no reason...see above..he did it again today for no reason.

And I know I will have to when I can save up enough go after this guy and right a few wrongs..and it will take money and time. He has endless supplies of the money part and I have endless lack of. So I am just going to wait until that day and then just do the right thing. I have no other motive and just want to give my son the best life I can. Give him love and support and show him that his mommy is there for him 100 percent. No stand by guys. Just mommy here for now. And he knows if anybody else enters our picture, he will have to be there 100 percent for him too!

It is a blessing and such a wonderful gift that our children know where they stand with us. That is priceless to them. We cannot change or influence the actions of others. But we can live our lives so that others see who we are and what we stand for.

I see how you came out the other side. You still hurt because you had to do what you did. I remember my former pastor saying this similar thing about 9/11 and our response as a nation. He even used divorce as a simile. He said the sunday after that horrid day, ironically the sunday after I filed originally for divorce, that "we should not go into this with anything but regret. Not vengeance. Nothing can bring them back, the loved ones. But we do this, we go to war, because it is regretfully the right thing to do. We cannot let this go on and we must stand up for what we believe in." I remember weeping in the sanctuary along with about a thousand other people weeping. I remember hearing the minister even compare it to a divorce and I immediately understood what God wanted me to hear.

Hello justpeachy

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It is a blessing and such a wonderful gift that our children know where they stand with us. That is priceless to them. We cannot change or influence the actions of others. But we can live our lives so that others see who we are and what we stand for.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Myself, i would find this as a good quality about a lady, although i'm quite disliked for such,,,

***But I knew you wouldn't take it lying down***
that was thee hardest part in my life so far, having to take that stand, and stand up against the lady that was everything for awhile,my wife. The hardest part, was for the fact she is my children's mom.

"we should not go into this with anything but regret. Not vengeance. Nothing can bring them back, the loved ones. But we do this, we go to war, because it is regretfully the right thing to do. We cannot let this go on and we must stand up for what we believe in."

and i sure was with a lot of regret,,,,

often when either i'm asked, or if i mention anything about custody, often i'll add- and i'm not bragging, or to very proud of such,, for the simple reason, she is my children's mom. besides- that isn't what a family, mom, or dad is suppose to be about. As we think of only our selfish wants/needs,,,,

ustpeachy, your son is lucky to have a wonderful caring mom as you. you are just that-just peachy!

make it a wonderful glorious day,

happy holidays,

stever