I have been fighting for my marriage for the last year. She has been involved with an emotional affair for over a year.

I have tried many things: Plan A, Plan B, Dr. Phils Relationship Rescue and 2 marriage councilors. She moved out for space in August. Then she filed and then she suspended the divorce papers a week later. Since then because of the kids,we have maintained the close but not too close relationship that simply has not improved or deteriorated. It just keeps hanging on.

I crashed in October and had to be medicated for acute anxiety. Since then I know that there is something more important than my marriage and that is my life. I didn't like having suicidal thoughts and am very scared to go back there.

So now its december and I made the mistake of asking a nice girl out and we really hit it off. I mean something just clicked. It was wonderful to just hold someones hand and not feel like they were just going through the motions.

I'm a good person who has made some mistakes but I have also had some pretty real trauma in my life too. So I guess what I want to know is can/should I walk away. I think it will be safer but lower quality. Does that make sense. Thankyou for reading

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Walk away from what? The pretty young woman? Your marraige? Your principles?

I'm a firm believer in first things first. Sometimes, people slip up and don't do stuff in the right order. But, I think you can set it straight. Tell pretty girl you're unavailable until you get your marital siutiation dissolved. Then, tell your wife what you did. You may be able to take a cue about what to do next based on your wife's reaction.