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My lawyer wants me to file under Extreem Cruelty <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
Other than the fact that she asked me to leave, said she doesn't love me and said she wants D, I also need to say other bad things about her.
I feel the above are reason enough.
Has anyone else had to say things, as true as they may be, that they didn't ever want to have to say about ther S.
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I actually didn't know you could file under "Extreme cruelty". Please tell me more about this.
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TreeReich,
Grounds you can file under are different from state to state.
In NJ, just about any complaint you can think of qualifies as extreme cruelty. It sounds worse than it realy is.
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In NJ, the default is extreme cruelty.
Just list a few, the lawyer will decide which to actually put in the motion.
'My wife told me to get out and never come back.'
sounds 0k to me.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> 'My wife told me to get out and never come back.' sounds 0k to me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Not quite worded like that but it was #1 on my list. Doesn't matter now though. What she said is what matters now <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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My lawyer actually said to keep some things out as it is a public document. If separated for 18 months, then you can claim no fault, and the records are not made public. Seems like you'll be able to do that.
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Wish,
I am in NJ, too. My STBX and I had agreed in the begining of the separation that if we file for D, we would wait 18 months for 'no fault', because she did not want to make public all of the negative things that happened in our marriage. When I caught sight of her and her new BF two weeks after we separated, I told her I was going to file imeadiately under 'extreme mental cruelty'. She lost it. Long story short, she watches a lot of lifetime television and soap operas, so she thinks that what she sees on a tv divorces is what happens in reality. It is not even close. The judge wants you in and out and who actually looks at those public records?
But I would follow your laywer's advice. They usually have some canned, generalized statements. He will make it work and be objective.
Good luck!!
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