She has been to the lawyer and the papers are on the way. It is over and I know it but I still love her. I guess this will be one of my last posts. I will not have time to mess around on here shortly. I am trying for the USAF. She has no solid plans but that is her problem now. I wish I could have been a more positive story for this board but it jus wan't meant to be. I will have to move on and it will hurt but she wants to run away and I can't stop her.

I'm so sorry and I know how you feel. All you can do now is take care of yourself and now that you will be ok. I got my DV on the 11th. It was hard but in my heart I know I tried everything I could to keep my WH. He gave up on us and he will have to live with that.
Just take care of you now and try to move on the best you can.
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

Much like TreeReich said:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It was hard but in my heart I know I tried everything I could to keep my WH. He gave up on us and he will have to live with that.
Just take care of you now and try to move on the best you can.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I read on the back of a shirt the other day You never fail until you quit trying. I know that I did everything possible to work on our marraige and never quit trying and it too ended up in divorce.

Take care of yourself and find the positive in life. There is much of it out there but we sometimes fail to see it fully.

Confused, as long as you did your best, you can look yourself in the mirror and smile. You have nothing to be ashamed of. While it takes two to make a marriage, it only take one to make a divorce and tear a family apart.

Get on with your life. Remember that living well is the best revenge.

Thanks, I will try to take care but for now with her living in the same house as me (we have no choice) this is going to be so hard to deal with. I just hope my plans work out so I can restart my life and move on. I still love her and I wish her well but I fear for her safety. She really has no clue what she is getting into and after this is done I will not be able to bail her out. She thinks that the divorce will set her free? I don't know how she came to that but WOW! what is she on and where can I get some? Oh well enough ranting about that. I really am starting to hate her for this! I wanted this and she just threw it away. How dare she betray me like this. I made it through the hard times because she stood by me now she just leaves before I even have a chance to stand by her. I really wonder what the truth is. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I just can't believe this.....

Take a deep breath. Take one day at a time!

I found out what her lawyer is up to. He was going to go for alamony payments!? SHE IS THE ONE WHO WALKED AWAY FROM THIS MARRIAGE!!!! SHE SHOULD FEEL LUCKY THAT I AM NOT JUST TAKING EVERYTHING I CAN FROM HER!!! Now she seems to think that she will get the house. My income got this house not hers. She will need a really good job in order to take over the payments. She needs to wake up and realize that things are not as simple as she wants them to be! I am not going to be here for her as a backup anymore. This time if she falls she will really hit the ground hard for the first time. She is lucky that all I want is out as fast as possible so I can move on with my life. I scored very well on the practice exams for the USAF today. I will have my pick of what I want to do. Air force Intel looks fun but so does the F-16/F117 avionics tech. I HAVE A FUTURE AND I KNOW IT!!

Confused,

I'm glad you have a possitive direction that you're heading. Sounds like an adventure(not just a job <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

Be carefull about getting out as fast as you can, you may overlook something that can hurt you in the long run.

Seems like you and I are at about the same place right now. Well Happy F***in holidays anyway!

WIWH

Sadly I really do not care about the house or almost anything in it. I want only a few special items to remember this mess by and a few of my most unique devices. Other than that I want to start over. I just do not hink I really wnat to wait for long to start looking around for my next relationship. I have loved being married and I will miss the feelings a great deal. I know that I cannot rushinto things but I really am not used to being alone. I have never liked being alone either. Next time I want a woman not a girl but a real live woman that can truly feel the way my STBXW claimed to feel.

Confused,

It's not over yet until that paper is signed. Your story is so much like mine. Like you, my wife turned into a greedy person once we're no longer together.

I also didn't care much for the house or the properties in in. So much to say, but what's the point of complaining. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey, you're still young... Again.. do not look for any date...wait until everything is over. It's very tempting to look for something or someone to fill your loneliness. It will go away eventually. Trust me on this.

I will wait for this to be over. I know that she will not but What do I care anymore. At this point I just want to have my name off of all the bills and stuff. If she wants "freedom" she can "have it". But as any of us that have ever lived on our own on a tight budget will know, single life is far from free. I wonder how long it will take before she will star calling me and trying to talk (If she has not already replaced me). I really do not think she knows what she is getting into. I have always provided for her and with her help we lived well. Without me that meal ticket is over and the sooner she figures that out the sooner she can truly fix her life. I guess she might need to learn this lesson the hard way! This will be one hell of a show! I will keep you all posted.

Last night she came home and we started really dividing up all of the stuff that was upstairs in the house. After this I went off to do my own thing and she came after me to get me to watch a movie with her. I only got in about an hour of the movie before I had to go to bed and type up my daily log. About 40 minutes after I left she came in and sat down on the bed and sighed. She then laid down in the bed and sighed. So afte all of this I asked her what was wrong and she just told me "this whole situation". Now she did go out with her mom and that may have done a little for us. What is going on now? It sounds like she is having second thoughts but why now? I am just getting to the point where I can accept the idea of her and me not being together. Now I am more confused than ever...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Confused,

I did the divsion of the household property with my WW just before Christmas last year and I was the one who's world it shattered. She split on me for OM and moved in with him almost imeadiately. Needless to say, I was crushed because I wanted to remain married to her, but when she stood me up at MC and never came back home, I knew the situation was grim. So, I counciled and started therapy and she started a new relationship right away. Now, 14 months later, she found out that the grass is not always greener... and she began her fence sitting... She expressed her guilt over how she just gave up and left and said she didn't know if her and I should be over. Apparently, her relationship is following the 'script' of an A. The problems in our M are now the same problems in her new relationship.
My word of advice to you is don't get involved in another relationship for awhile. It is not fair to yourself or the other person in the relationship with you. I had one rebound relationship that lasted almost two months until I ended it. The relationship was flawed from the getgo as I began relying on the other person to vent my marital frustrations and it caused more stress and angst in my life, which took away from my focus on healing and educating myself and ultimately delayed my healing process. Try not to fall into that negative cycle.

Remember; a failure is not a failure unless you don't learn from it.

Good luck in your quest... stay focused.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> samm

I will learn from this I know that. I will never look at a relationship the same way again. If I had met my wife just recently I would not have given her a second look or thought. I am stuck here now and would love things to work out but I just don't see that happening. Maybe tonight I will find out something.