Well, I get my day in court tomorrow. Not looking forward to that. Hopes of reconciliation are fading very fast... I guess I'll at least get closure. I hope things go smoothly. WW seems ok with the arrangements. I'm coming out ahead, but I still wish we could've worked things out. I should be happy that things will finally be over and I can move on, but there is a lot of emptiness I feel...

On a lighter note... My WW's birthday is tomorrow also. I don't know if I should get her a birthday card. She'll probably think I'm being a jerk, but if I could write something nice, she may at least feel a little better. I'm not sure if she is gonna be happy or just ok with all this...

I feel a little bad for her right now. She is struggling financially because she kicked OM out a few weeks ago. I would think I'd be happy that she isn't doing well after everything she's put me and my girls through, but I don't feel that way. I feel kinda bad... Especially during this time of year...

Well, I'll write some more tomorrow. Maybe I'll feel better or worse then.... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

{{{LWH}}}

Having just gone through my own DV one month ago today, I don't really have any profound words of wisdom for you. I'm glad, in a way, that here in Iowa, if both parties agree on everything before the DV date, my attorney could represent me and take the petition in front of the judge and have it signed, and I didn't even have to be there. I would have no doubt been a soppy mess of tears.

It is rather ironic that your WW's DV date and her birthdate will be the same day. That's one heck of a reminder to be stuck with for her!

Don't know what to tell you about the card. If you do get one, I'd make it a really generic one. Maybe just recognize that it's her birthday to show that you still care--IF you are ever thinking you might want to reconcile if there were a chance someday.

Otherwise, if you're done for good with her, perhaps say nothing. Just conduct your business.

LL

Being the second time through this... we tried about 6 months ago but we weren't ready, court actually went fairly well. We actually joked a little during the hearing. We had to raise our right hand to be sworn in and I raised the right arm and W said the other right and I almost changed hands... It was kinda funny and I almost laughed. I guess it was better than crying...

I did give my W a birthday card. It was short and to the point. Even though she didn't say much about it, I think she liked getting it. I think I'm gonna give my kids some money so they can take her out to dinner.

I feel upset--not sure the exact emotions, but I also feel some relief, like I finally have closure. I am teary now, however and it hurts thinking and writing.

I still hope one day when all the fog burns off that we can maybe work through some of the hurt we both feel. I know us BSs go through a lot of pain, but I'm sure our WSs go through a lot also. Maybe not quite the same, but still a lot of hurt and pain...

I want to thank all of you who have gotten me through this whole mess. It's been a tough experience, but I think I've come out a better person because of it...

Lost without Her.... A very Merrry Christmas to you! I know it has been a very difficult time for you from reading your post. I am very sad for you!

I'm passing along e-cards to brighten your day a little bit. Hope you feel God's love and comfort for you!

http://www.angelhugs.com/AMerryLittleChristmas.html

Turn up your speaker and take a moment out just for you!

Christ Love
my love
sky

sky diver, thanks for the post/support and the e card. Things are going well right now. I feel ok, but sad about how all this ended... It's weird, but no matter how hard I try not to think of ex, I still do every day. I hope when/if I ever start dating again, some of the memories and thoughts of her will fade away... In any event, thanks again for the support. I hope your holidays and new year bring you much joy and happiness!!!