I've been busting my butt to get this house ready to sell --- had the realtor come by a week and a half ago to prepare the listing agreement (which lists what we are selling the house for, what we are including, and that we'll be using the same agent for 6 months - all of which WH has no problems with) He took the paperwork last friday "to review" -- by Wednesday still hadn't signed -- I press him as to why -- he wants an attorney to look at it (which is a complete waste of time but, fine, if he's paranoid that I'm trying to get one over on him, he can go right ahead)

I ask him to please get to the attorney this week - I want the house listed by the weekend so we can get exposure over the weekend and hopefully start showing it this week (mind you, he is the one who wanted to end the marriage - i wanted to fix it - so now i'm just doing what I need to do to move on - neither of us can afford the house alone - it needs to be sold ASAP). So yesterday he says he'll sign Monday (going to attorney Monday morning)--- I say PLEASE sign today - there is nothing in the agreement that has to do with splitting money at settlement - its a standard form every realtor in the state uses!!! He says he'll think about it -- so I get home last night - no signed agreement - just a note - "I'm sorry I couldn't sign it I will make sure things go into overdrive come monday morning" WHAT!?!?!? why does he get to decide when things start moving forward???? he's the one that started this mess! I'm trying to do what I can do to get myself removed from his insanity so I can heal - away from him dating the OW - away from this house that holds these horrible memories -- so I call him and vent -- why do you need to have the power?? he says i can have the power, i say please i don't want the power and haven't had any through this whole h*llish ordeal -- i just want to move on why can't you cooperate?!?!? soooo - anyway -- guess this is just a vent!

He's not doing it because he's not sure what he wants - he's made it quite clear... I don't know why he's doing it -- guess it doesn't matter... I'm just trying to do what is best for me and he is NOT cooperating...ugh!

<small>[ December 18, 2004, 10:02 AM: Message edited by: stillprocessing ]</small>

I had a similar situation with the final set of income tax forms we had to file together. My (at the time)STBX refused to sign them. This was in February.

Just like every year of our marriage, I had gathered all the necessary paperwork, I had made the appointment with our accountant, I was the one who took time off work, paid the accountant etc...etc...

In other words, I did all the "dirty work"

This is the insanity it took to get his signature on our freakin' income tax returns (not to mention the extra cost):

I had to take them to my attorney, who then sent them to X's attorney, who then had him sign them and sent them back to my attorney where I was able to pick them up on my lunch hour on April 15th.

Getting a simple 7 second signature took exactly 7 weeks.

Stillprocessing

Merry, merry Christmas to you-I am deeply sorry for all the hurt, pain right at this time.
I hope you can take some gentle time for self.

I am passing along e-cards comfort greetings. I feel this one is especially meant for you. Turn up your speaker for a minute and feel God love for you!

http://www.angelhugs.com/SilentNight.html

Blessings, my friend!

Christ Love
My love
Sky

Thanks Sky Diver -- that song always makes me cry though!!! He signed the listing agreement finally but now is coming up with other ways to drive me nuts! I'm going to start a new thread to see if someone can help me deal with his stupidity.