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I am calmer right now. Still angry but pondering my next step. I can't believe the affair went on for 4 years....by the way does anyone know what the average affair lenght is? It just seems like 4 years is so long. There were weekly emails and calls to him everytime she went to see him. She says it happened 6-10 times over 4 years and if she freely admitted that I can easily double it. The act is hard to get over but it's also all the lies. I would constantly ask her if she was seeing someone or emailing anyone because I had a suscpion. She would always say no. I found out about the affair because I opened up mail that didn't belong to me. The lies were constant and she probably lied about 100 times over this. The pain in my heart is more than I have ever felt...100 times more than when my parents died.
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I know it hurts right now. Probably the worst hurt in most people's lives. Many of us here have been through the same thing. However, it is possibe to go on and have a much better marriage.
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AndrewJb1-Merry Christmas to you! May your day to day filled with comfort, peace, quiet joy! I am very sorry to learn about the endurance of your wife affair. She is lost. I am passing along e-cards to brighten your day a little bit- I understand you are hurting so deeply. This isn't what love is supposed to be like. Put on your speakers and listen to God's love for you! He loves so very,very much! It will get better, please keep sharing. http://www.angelhugs.com/NeedsNoWords.htmlChrist Love my love sky
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