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Just a quick note to let you all know I closed on my new house last Wednesday and moved out on Friday. I still have some things to get at the house - just found out H is taking some time off work this week, so I may not be able to sneak in and out without being seen.

Anyway, it's emotionally up and down for me now. I like my house, but am busy with unpacking and not dealing with much of anything else. I honestly don't know how I feel. I think (today anyway) I wish H, and all memory of him, would drop from the face of the earth. Today I feel depressed again. Geez! Will it ever level out?

My Internet is not hooked up at home yet - and our offices are being torn up on Wednesday so I'm probably not going to be in communication much for a while. So, wishing all a MERRY CHRISTMAS, which for this list seems like something of an oxymoron.

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Hey DV,

Merry Christmas-missed you-understand the entire upheavel part-isnt'that fun? Hope things get better for you-and you'll be back on line again.

Wanted to send you a comforting e-card so that you can feel more of God's comfort through this difficult time. I know it sucks.

http://www.angelhugs.com/CatchingRainbows.html

Christ Love
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I'm B-A-C-K !!!!

Sky,

Thanks for the great hug card - I would have sent it back to you, but didn't have your E-Mail address.

As of today - following 6 hours of hassle - I am finally back on line, with my computers networked, printers working, wireless working... it doesn't get much better than this.

I LOVE MY NEW HOUSE! My dogs are finally starting to seem comfortable here as well. I feel at home here, and am LOVING being alone. I can't believe I feel this way. The relief is overwhelming. All I want to do is hang out here.

I even hung up two lighted green Christmas balls from the ceiling. This is the first time in years I've decorated ANYTHING for Christmas.

I picked up the last of my stuff yesterday while H was at work. At least I thought I had - I realized later I missed a couple of things, and I'm not sure it's worth going back there again for anything more. I wonder if I'll keep feeling this way, or if I'll start missing H at some point. I guess "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has become "out of sight, out of mind" instead.

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I wonder if I'll keep feeling this way, or if I'll start missing H at some point. I guess "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has become "out of sight, out of mind" instead.

The latter seems to be the case for me. When I'm not seeing my ex or thinking about him, I tend to be more calm and at peace. I certainly slept better once he and I were separate--no wondering if he was coming home that night or not.

Get yourself some Christmas tunes and stare at those balls you hung if you don't have anything else (btw, Target can set you up with a dandy little fiberoptic tree for $19.99 <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) and enjoy your Christmas in your new house!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Target can set you up with a dandy little fiberoptic tree for $19.99 </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Mistltoe is a lot cheaper and much more fun <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Mistltoe is a lot cheaper and much more fun </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Okay, you have a point there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Except the only kisses happening under it at my house would be with my kids (doubtful) or the dogs.

How much do you suppose it'd cost to rent a guy to stand under it for, oh say, half-hour?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lordslady:
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How much do you suppose it'd cost to rent a guy to stand under it for, oh say, half-hour? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This time of year? People are looking for work...

You take the guy, I'll take the dogs. Thank you very much. My dogs love me no matter what. They don't snore either. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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I could bring my dog, but I would have to charge extra <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WishI WereHome:
<strong> I could bring my dog, but I would have to charge extra <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It might be worth it if he would give my border collie pup some much-needed exercise! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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I feel the same way as Lordslady. My husband moved out and I remain in the house. I feel better, sleep better, and eat better when I don't see him. Every time I look at his face, I only see lies, cheats, and betrayals. So in a way, out of sight out of mind for me.


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