more than a year post divorce and I cant remember the last time I cried because of my EX...till yesterday.

Kids and I were having a grest time. We spent the evening wrapping gifts, singing, laughing and making cookies. In the middle of this I get a phone call. The name and number had shown up on called ID several times in the last week but no one was at home previously. So I said, let me find out who this is.

Turns out it was a time share venture and my ex had been there with his bimbo 2 weeks ago.

The lady starts out the call with "Your GOOD friends TM and CB were here 2 weeks ago and they thought that you would be interested in hearing from us....

I was floored. I pay to have my number unlisted and my ex just hands it out to sales rep and has the nerve to tell them that I am their good friend.
1..Im sure he got some kind of monetary reward for handing over my name and 2... Im sure that him and his bimbo had quite a lagugh over the fact that they knew I would be called and have their names thrown in my face.

When I called him and confronted him he thought it was hilarious, and even more so that I was upset about it. I want him to just leave me alone.

He claimed all he wanted was out of the marriage so why 1 year later is he still using and abusing me. Last week he left my alimony check in an envelope on my kitchen table that his "new" little girl wwrote out my name in crayon. He is bent on throwing the situation in my face.

I told him yesterday that if he gave out my number again or if I got any more calls from this place he already gave my number to I would file a harassment charge

Sorry this is a vent <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> but I am upset over this and I know I shouldnt be. He was a jerk the whole 26 years we were married, abusive then and still is. I know the last 2 years didnt change him and I didnt expect him to change, but I am still upset over this.

<small>[ December 22, 2004, 11:04 PM: Message edited by: sunrise1 ]</small>

{{{{{{{{sunrise}}}}}}}}} So sorry to hear you had to experience this unpleasantness, especially just days from Christmas. Vent all you want. I know you don't want him to still be able to push your buttons, but you're human and he's being cruel and contemptuous. And, he's not just anybody, he's the man with whom you had four children and spent the majority of your life. There's nothing wrong with feeling upset by his continued emotional abuse - that's why you want him to leave you alone!

{{{{{{{{sunrise}}}}}}}}} So sorry to hear you had to experience this unpleasantness, especially just days from Christmas. Vent all you want. I know you don't want him to still be able to push your buttons, but you're human and he's being cruel and contemptuous. And, he's not just anybody, he's the man with whom you had four children and spent the majority of your life. There's nothing wrong with feeling upset by his continued emotional abuse - that's why you want him to leave you alone!

Hi Sunrise1

Stop reacting, start ignoring.

It will really mess with their heads when you have absolutely no response.

Thus far reacting has only gotten you laughed at as they play their little games. Furthermore, when you react, you're validating the buttons they're pushing.

The only way to win is not to play.

thanks Fo1 and Lets Try..
I have been doing pretty good, didnt say a word with anything else or the crayoned envelope. He was horrible when he was here for settlement when I bought my house in July and havent really spoken to him at all.

I have been under alot of stress this week (I am in college full time, and working as a floral designer full time. with finals over and all the houses in my little world decorated now for Christmas, it was finally time for me to relax and enjoy the holiday and then I got hit with this recent mind game. Last nite I also got the note concerning the tax deductions (see other post)

To top it off, when I got home from work last nite I found the dog had eaten almost 2 pounds of chocolate chips and he was up all night sick,sick, sick, and of course I had to be up with him. I used to work at a veterinary emergency clinic and I know how dangerous chocolate can be for a dog. He seems a little better this AM so maybe we escaped the 500$ veterinary emergency trip, but I am zonked and have about a weeks worth of Christmas work left to do today and tomorrow.

Everyone have a good holiday!!!!!!

They tell me chocolate is dangerous for dogs. One year, x gave me 1/2 pound of belgian chocolates for christmas. The 25 pound cocker spaniel ate all of them but 1 or 2. Didn't even barf. I could have killed her, though. She had gotten them off the kitchen cabinet. Don't ask how. I don't know. And x did not get me another box.

I guess I should have known then.

Anyway, I am sorry this happened to you. I would probably have told the telemarketer "They are not my friends. They are my x and his whore. (Or something equally embarrasing) Do not call me again."

Anyway, I hope the dog is ok and that your Christmas was good.

LOL Cinderella. That is exactly what I did say to telemarketer.

Dog was very, very sick but made it through. We all made it through. I could have kiled my 22 YO son however when Christmas morning I got up and there was the chocolate peanut butter pie I bought for Christmas dessert sitting on the counter for the dog to grab if he so choose. I guess the dog thought..no more chocolate for me and passed it up for some plain sugar cookies that my son also left out <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I had the happiest Christmas I have ever had and to top it off, I dont think my daughter knows I heard her, but I heard her exclaim as we were getting ready for dinner that this was the best Christmas she ever had

Hope you all had an enjoyable holiday

<small>[ December 27, 2004, 04:13 PM: Message edited by: sunrise1 ]</small>

Let's hear it for Xs......


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