He he...here's a headline for ya:
Peach going to the Apple! This will be huge...and I AM NOT GOING ALONE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Yea...I will tell you bout that but first..
As to both Justin and High Flight: I agree..dates must have respiration...breathing is nice. Sobriety is good too. Sometimes one can imagine the date is much better looking if there are more than one cocktail involved. Stay sober and remember if your date is cute or not.
I will add to the mix that they must be interesting. Not somebody that will sit there and just well...sit there. And you people know how I feel about the quintessential "turbo daters" lurking about out there. They are imho, frightening. And they drive fast too. Probably because they are trying to fit three women into one evening.
How was everybody's new year? Mine was good. Went to a party with the girls. Had fun. Went out with the party host on thurs. night. He is ok. Very nice...very ok. But my heart didn't skip one beat.
Back to the Peach/Apple part. Earlier this year, I had begun seeing briefly the cute financial planner/friend from college...not the hilltop neighbor mind you...but a guy that I knew in college. We had some joint friends from waaaay back, and t hings went well...until he had muddied his life up by telling me how he had gone to dinner with his ex fiancee...who comes to atlanta on business frequently.
Needless to say, I got scared, as under no circumstances would I date somebody who was less than honest and unable to be faithful. I prematurely dumped him but remained friends...that was when the xbf walked in the picture...the guy I worked with.
Anyhow, Mr.Swiss (what I will call the college guy/friend I knew) has come back into the picture. Background...he's from MS and grew up about 30 miles away from me. My sister, bro in law and best friends all went to UM and he did as well. He's really cute, nice, funny, and sharp. No kids, never married although he has a demanding and brassy x fiancee who is nothing like him...and thankfully he has shut her out for good. He's got a great job (works for swiss bank) and an mba. He actually reads. Yea, he reads books. He's a man's man though. Former college rugby player and not that terribly romantic though....at least that's what I thought.
He shows up yesterday at my house on football central day. He left his buddies' football party earlier to come to see me. Mind you what day it was ok? He is at the front door with a very nice bottle of chardonnay (my favorite) and a handful of flowers. On football day. He had called earlier to ask me if he could celebrate "game day" with me also. He doesn't talk much during games, but during the commercials, he held my hand and says this..."Peachy, I have really come to care for you. You know this. We've both had some time to think about things and I've known you for almost a year now. I want to see you more and think we could work towards something good. Something really good. That lasts. I think little peach is terriffic too and I want to be around him some more if you'd say it's ok. My company is sending me to NYC for two weeks and I am going to miss you alot. So here's something I would like to ask you...and I have been scared to do it but here goes...WILL YOU GO TO NYC WITH ME?"
I gulp. He says that he's going to get, should I decide to come, a nice suite with a great view. One with an extra room and "a door to shut" (my thing I would need for an overnight stay). But that he's really needed to spend more time with me and that he's worked so hard lately that he thought I deserved this. He says he'll have the entire weekend (three day) planned out. He's really familiar with NYC and that's good. We will go to a broadway show, to little italy for dinner, to more dinners, and to the met. museum of art and museum of nat. history. Also says he'll take me to central park, and shopping for "something special"...no guys..not something sparkly I don't believe.
He said that I've worked really hard and that he's watched me just do what I have to do. And then he said that he wanted to see just me period. Said that he'd wait to hear back from me on this.
Ok. I am kinda wierded out. I say that I need a bit of time. Football day draws nigh. He goes home. I go to sleep after doing laundry. Son is visiting the xh. I wake up and there's a text on my cell..."will you go to NYC with me?" Swissboy is definitely moving in the right direction.
I tell two of my girlfriends about this. They say this is "so very sleepless in seattle" of him. One is frightened he will try to ask me something. I don't think he will. I think he just wants to do this to get a committment. You gotta walk before you crawl btw. So I kinda pick a bit more. I talk to Swissboy and talk about "things". He says that he wants to work towards things being more permanent with me this year. And that maybe 05 will be my last year single period.
So I don't think he's going to ask me anything in NYC. But I think he is going to want to become "the boyfriend". The serious bf.
Now comes what do I want to do. All my girlfriends think I should go. I can have my own little room there in the suite. I have never been there. I do need to see if I can do all right for a longer time around Mr. Swiss. and yes, I have not been around a guy longer than eight hours since being around my xh.
I accepted his offer to go an hour ago btw. I told him how I was nervous. How I hadn't been around a guy for longer than 8 hours. How I was a bit scared in general. But he said that he just wants me to see how we can actually do things together and have fun. How he does care what I think about and how different he is from my xh. My xh btw...never took me to one museum. Just an aquarium. Never wanted to talk or learn anything new. Never wanted me to go back to school (anesthesia school). Mr. Swiss also says that "it's not normal for a girl to go so long without these things." That I have more than deserved the broadway plays, the nice dinners out, the romance, and the shopping. He said that "seeing how you are contended wtih your life as is has been huge to me. You're not a golddigger and you've been the most determined woman to me...to make it on your terms and do it for your son."
He said he was glad that I was going to go. Today we'll discuss flight plans and I will officially ask one day off of work tomorrow.
I haven't gone anywhere with a man in so long. What do I wear? What do I bring? Do I wear and bring sensible undies? How many outfits? How cold is it in NYC? What is wierd is actually going to breakfast with a man. Wow. That is wierd. And son will be at xh's.
I almost feel wayward. Like I am doing something wild.
However, I am a single girl who is going to get her "own door to close" even if it is in a suite. Swiss said "remember the movie 'touch of mink'?" He told me to remember how in the movie Doris Day had her own room and Cary grant had another room. But that it was all inside of one suite.
I wear scrubs every day. I can barely remember what it is like to go out to a fancy restaurant on a date...usually it's for a medical dinner or a continuing education thing. I can't remember when I was treated like this. Once upon a time, in a galaxy far away...I did go to fancy dinners and nice trips. I used to have nice jewelry and thought I had the perfect life. Except that person didn't talk to me, didn't care about me/my being and bettering myself or himself, and was all about controlling me. I am scared I guess b/c here's this guy who does want those things. Wants me to grow, wants to be my friend. And he's way darn cute too. No kids, no past. Great job, well educated. And a good kisser too.
Why am I scared? I swear I keep shooting myself in the foot. I want to have the life I should have had before. Maybe sometimes I think that I don't deserve it or that it cannot possibly exist.
But I am going. It's a done deal.
Any suggestions about NYC? I will arrive on saturday morning and leave monday evening late back to atlanta.
If any mb'ers are there, would love to see ya or have lunch! Plus you'd get to meet Mr. Swiss.
