Ok here my story. We have been M for 4 years. A fast M. I fell in love at with her she got pregnant (DD on 2000) and I moved from a Texas (we meet there) to Chicago. I am from Miami so… Chicago is not my first chore for place to live. It’s dam cold up here. I knew that we would get into trouble and she promised me that we would get MC when we need it. (and we would not stay in Chicago) Kid number 2 DS in 2003.

Fast forward.. this past summer. The M went down hill. She worked all the time. Weekends, late at nite,10 day trips the UK. Etc


Oct 22 2004 I install software on home computer and in one day I knew all. Plans to D me, make OM dad to our kids. Oh did I tell you that I got a Vasectomy during the A. well I got a counseling and a lawyer. I confronted her one week later. We went to 3 MC hours all ended with her wanting a D. she “never loved me” “she is in love for first time in her life”.. OM is also M with 2 small kids. After 4 weeks I told OMW. thay are also get a D.

Q:How do find my self in love and married to the mother of my kids when she is in love with someone else?
A: It makes no difference. I will come to except that it is true. I have not been the perfect husband but this is not my decision. It is my wife’s.

The D is not my decision. I am angry. All I want is to be dad to my kids. This not the best thing for the kids.

The kids:
W is not a stay at home mom. We have been sharing the duties at home from the start. I bath, feed, shots. diapers, clip nails, cook, clean, laundry. And she the same. We are looking a 50/50 split on time and lader nites. I see that she is trading her time with the kids for OM. And haft of my time the kids will not have a dad. This sucks.

We are in mediation now but life sucks. She call 911 on Xmass day because I would not let her drive my car. She has a 99 Honda. Makes no sense. I do not know how bad this can get but is this plan D ?

I'd play dirty now...she's crossed the line. Your children have you for their dad. She is playing house with a married OM. Who is a bad dad too imho.

I would have a PI investigate her actions and her whereabouts when she is to be with the kids. I'd have it all documented and then say "well we can let the courts decide how much you can have as far as custody goes".

If she is neglecting your children to be running around with a married other man, I would definitely think the courts would have an opinion on this one...a negative one.

I'd file for full custody. I'd get proactive and do what I had to do. This comes from somebody who fought like heck against a guy with tons of money...who could fight me just to have fun with it.

Maybe she will wake up from the fog. Maybe not. But your kids do not need to wait for that to happen. And they only have one dad...that is you. Her dreams of OM being their dad is just plain harmful and foolish WS daydreaming and stupidity. Oh, and it is again HARMFUL to do these things to children...she needs to be made painfully aware of this. In the courtroom.

Worded something wrong...no, the OM is the bad dad and your WW is the bad mom...You're the stand up guy and the one with the glue holding your family together now...

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