I would like to ask anyone out there, if you know of anyone else, or perhaps yourself, who have regretted divorcing their/your spouse. I would like to make a checklist of items to consider before I take this step.

I am seriously considering filing in the D this year. FWH and I would have been separated for two years this coming May, which mean I can file a D without his consent.

FWH is still "trying to make things work" in our marriage during this separation, although does not care for any of the MB principles, especially in meeting ENs. He is still secretive about his finances, where he lives, and he does not show me in places where his friends or colleagues will be.

I feel little for him. When I think of how immature and selfish he is, I wish to leave. I don't know what to expect after a D, and would like to have some enlightenment.

What happens after a D? Would I grieve all over again?

An answer from anyone who has gone through this will be appreciated! Thank you!