I finally found all of the stuff I was never supposed to find. Paper clearly stating all of the whos, whats and everything else about all of her other guys. As far as I am concerned she can GET BENT!!!!!! If she cannot tell the truth what do I need her for? I am sure that there are other women out there who would love me far more than she ever has and be able to accept my faults the way she has not. The divorce will go forward I may continue to allow her to stay with me at night I don't know. I gave her so many chances to come clean she just never thought to use any of them. She very quickly changed her tune after I told her what I knew though. She still left out the other man that she works with so she is still trying to bury all of this. She will not escape this time......I will make sure of that. I intend to leave her set if she is honest or leave her totally screwed if she tries anything at all. As far as I am concerned she has had 2 affairs and refuses to really admit either one of them. How can she do this to me? I gave her everything! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Why would she write all that down?

Was it somewhere she knew you would find it?

Maybe she thinks in her own mind that the less she tells you the less you will be hurt?

Just some thoughts....

She writes it all down so she can keep a log of her feelings. She thinks that I am too stupid to really start to be suspicious so she leaves all of this crap right were I will end up seeing it. She beleives that I will not read these things out of the goodness of my heart. I hate to tell her this but I am keeping all of it and will use it if I have to in court. I am not half as stupid as she takes me for! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I would definitley keep it. Don't get sucked back into her and give it back. I made that mistake. I tried to show my WW that I was honest and showed her all the email evidence I had on her and she destroyed it all.

Now I am left with little to show.

ISBTH

That would be a cold day in hell when I gave any of this crap back. In fact I am going to copy it all and send it all to the 2 men. They have no idea that she is this nuts! They are about to find out. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

If hell has no fury like a woman scorned, then pretty soon it will be my female side that will be firmly in control.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Who was that last guy?
What makes her think that she has been the faithful one? I have never fallen for another woman. She has always fallen for any man that would be nice to her (as in did not know how full of it she is). My STBXW is hopeless and will never come out of this stage of life. Now I have to go get drunk and pass out now bye.................

CiWv,

1. Keep the evidence. But don't spite her by sending them to the men. You don't need to be low. Keep your dignity and cool.

2. Stop drinking. I wouldn't like to go home to a drunk. BS or not.

3. Have you thought that she may be running away because she is afraid of your anger? Plan A might be the solution instead.

I'm sorry for all that you are going through. I went through that too. ((Hugs)) Please be patient with her even though she does not deserve it.

I will not be giving any of it back. She has just now started to notice things that have turned up missing. What do I care? What is she going to do? Ask "Dear where are my love letters about/from the other men?" yeah, right. That said she is nervous now. She knows that with the info I have I could ruin her chances in court. I told her that I still wanted it to be nice and simple for both of us. I also told her that niether one of us could afford a messy divorce right now. I do not want to use these things against her but if needed they are there. Today I went to the store she works in to get lunch. She found out and jumped down my throat about me being there. Now I know that I did nothing wrong today (yesterday I gave the "loverboy" the staredown) All I did was get luch and get out of there. She has no right to tell me that I was not allowed in the store. I told her these things and she went pretty quiet pretty quickly. She is now seing that I am not half as stupid as she seems to think I am. The alcohol is all gone and I have no need to get anymore so that is over. I just hope we can make this happen fast. I have a life to restart! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Last night things went kind of strangely. I gave her the run down on what I knew about her most recent activities and how I knew about them. The how part is what got her attention. I was able to match a scent on a book to a scent on her clothes. The book was lent to her by the OM. When told about this she finally admitted that she had been to his house but not really for him. The other clue was her description of a cat that she would never have seen if she had not gone there. She told me last night that dhe feels closer to me now than she has in years. I am not surprised about this as she is no longer seeing me through her own lies. I no longer have any clue what is going to happen but she is leaning in the "fix us" direction. Only one problem, I don't know if I want to try anymore. Does anybody here think it will be worth it to try or will she just the same things all over again?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by -ConfusedinWv-:
<strong> When told about this she finally admitted that she had been to his house but not really for him. She told me last night that dhe feels closer to me now than she has in years. I am not surprised about this as she is no longer seeing me through her own lies. I no longer have any clue what is going to happen but she is leaning in the "fix us" direction. Does anybody here think it will be worth it to try or will she just the same things all over again? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">hmmmmmmmmm.. went to his house but not for him? Does she do this at various other HOUSES in the town you live in, or is it just this one PARTICULAR house?? She's leaning in the 'fix us' direction?
This is ONLY my take on this - she's IN THE FOG and she also trying to CAKE WALK as well - most cheats do this - they want BOTH of you, but they do NOT want to give up the OP either. She wants you to just 'be hanging around in case this Affair doesn't work and then she'll run back to you' ..
SDLOTR
I am sorry you are having to experience this. She's continuing to LIE to you about things to string you along.

She has already come running back to me and given up on her crush. I am on the fence about what I should do with this now though. Should I take her back or should I just go forward with the divorce? I now know what the story is atleast. Until now none of her stories lined up with the facts now they do.