his is my brief recent history with women:

WxW spent 2004 gutting me, engages OM, apologizes New Years and invites me to a concert in March (for which I gave tickets at X-mas)

Mutual Friend enabled both WxW A’s then has spent the last 9 mos. unconditionally supporting me and avoiding WxW.

My H.S. GF thinks that I’m her soul mate and that my troubles stem from picking WxW over her 20 years ago.

A M’ed Work Friend wanted to be ‘more’ until she saw the fallout of WxW’s a and our Dv. Supportive but slightly foggy.

A woman I met three months ago wanted a R I opted for friendship (too soon for R!). She promptly asks me to talk to a ‘friend’ whose W had an A. I tell him about MB and MC (I’m no expert) A month later dude and my new ‘friend’ are engaged, and he’s still married! She says she couldn’t wait for me.

WxW tells folks I’m sleeping w/ Mutual Friend. H.S. GF flames me for talking to Work Friend. Work Friend jealous of New Friend. New Friend irritated that I didn’t tell her BF to Dv.

All have had or are willing to have A’s. All warn me not to (even Work Friend). All were friends with WxW, now hate her (WxW doesn't seem to like her self lately)

I don't know what's normal anymore in a R. 1/2 my life with WxW. Friends I've had for 20 plus years. Everyone new I've met so far (though I'm not looking) knows 'the story'-small world.

Many folks (counselor, pastor, etc.) say that I have a lot of 'feminine energy', that's why I talk/write/emote so easily and have more female friends than male. But women friends that were 'normal B4 are coming at me sideways, for all sorts of reasons (which I can't fathom)

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• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why is WxW sliding up tp me?-she got her OM/Dv</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why is my WxW’s best friend ignoring her but treating me like her long lost brother whom she must protect?</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why is someone I dated 23 years ago (but friends since) suddenly acting like we were an item a last week?</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why is a woman I've known for years at work acting like she just met me, and why does that create such fog?</font></li>

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No one acts as they did a year ago, nor do many act as expected. Sometimes I feel blessed (for the support) sometimes I feel cursed (for the mixed messages). Most times I feel tired.

Is this stuff normal?

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Wow, I don't know why. Sometimes women like to "mother" their friends in distress. Maybe you are sending out mixed messages as well? Just make sure you are very clear in your communications.