My WH is still seeing his current OW -- I finally moved out of the house the Monday after Christmas to get away from him and his craziness (he was working out of the home office during the day, sleeping elsewhere at night and running off to who knows where over the weekends). I'm feeling more peaceful in my apartment but am still needing to deal with him with regard to the sale of the house -- mainly just figuring out scheduling of showings and getting people in there to clean (which mostly my realtor has been dealing with)... but I've also asked him to set my mail aside and let me know if I get anything that looks important.

So, answer me this... why is he "acting" like he is home, when he isn't?? All last week he made it seem like he was home, I had asked if I had gotten any mail, he said "no" -- my neighbor called me Sunday to ask me what to do with the mail cause matt wasn't home all week. Then this week the realtor asks him what his schedule is so she can figure out the showing schedule and he says he'll be in and out all week but to go ahead and confirm all appointments and if he's home, he'll leave. Again, I talked to my neighbor... he isn't home!!! So, why the drama?? Why not tell the realtor to show it whenever cause he isn't home?? Why not tell me he's not home so I can get a neighbor to get the mail???

I know it doesn't matter and I know I shouldn't try to figure it out but i'm just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this behavior. I'm getting a little paranoid that maybe he's trying to pull something but I can't for the life of me figure out what. Any input would be appreciated!

Hi SP,

He's flakey. Dont dare try to interpretate! He's a cloud, he's blowing around as the wind takes him. He probably doesnt know when he'll be home or not. Planning ahead isnt a priority for him now.

Your sanity depends on disconnecting from him at this time! I dont know your story, but I'm sure you've been through enough, yes? Please take care of yourself! - Dru