I just read your signature and I am just blown away. Would you read my thread "confused about divorce"? I am confused because I am meeting the ex Thursday to talk- mainly because I feel the need to make amends in my part of the disastrous marriage. But I also feel God is calling me to do this, and he is living with OW and OC, so it seems like an impossible situation. Not even sure (actually pretty sure I don't) want to be with him anymore, yet part of me feels like I need to make sure there is really no chance of reconciliation. Most people would think I am crazy (even the posters here do as a whole) to even be thinking of the "reconciliation" word when it is a seemingly impossible situation, plus think I would be busting up a family there. Ow or GF has a child with her husband that she left - so that family is busted - and I don't want both children to be without 2 parents full time- at the same time I can't imagine it to be God's will that he is living with OW and OC and not married. And I have only recently thought of getting in contact with him. I don't know, just reading your story makes me wonder if I was too hasty in thinking there was no chance of our marriage being put back together. I don't want to be with someone who does not /cannot love me though. Any thoughts?

adgirl,

I for one do NOT think you're crazy as to wanting to reconcile. They are NOT married and I don't consider them a family. In my book, she's still the OW.

Arwin,
In my book she is too- the question is, what am I?

The wife of his youth.

Good description.

bump bc i see lupolady is on here