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I just got in from charleston yesterday afternoon. Got vmail from work (company I contract with) and went in to home office today to do sales and marketing with them.

Incidentally, trip went great...just nice relaxing time with friends.

But at work...contract is lost. And they want another tech as well to do the job...using me (contract tech) thru a company, they were paying alot more (about forty percent more) anyway. I am not going to get into it, but there is an issue that has made me soooo upset that I could not speak today when I went into the office to do sales and marketing. My company, not having another contract to back this one up despite my being hired as full time salaried employee, asked me to "consider working as prn" for them...now mind you, I had issues with this same company this time last year...no raise..no really good benefits...I took this job b/c it was good hours and pay was decent...(although today I have lunch with a colleague at another office and he says it is NOT what it should be with regards to pay). I tell them if they are asking me to drop down to part time...they say yes.

I tell them that I am really upset at this happening and why in the heck did they choose to do this on a holiday when I could have stayed home? Why did I get up at five thirty am to come into work to hear this? I am a lady and I remain pretty calm during this whole thing which blindsides me.

Then they say that they heard some data that one of the docs had gotten false positives over the last month or so...not taking into consideration they had to call in the service company to work on the equipment I used three times at least b/c it crashed completely (the tower)...company sent out new and different service engineer and they kept having to send the guy back several times to work on things...so they are kinda saying that the false positive could have been my fault????No sir. I have done everything the same, all procedures the same for years...

So I calmly tell the cfo that I will be departing in 3 weeks. It is amicable and he claims he will give glowing recommendation and that he believes I have done a great job. That he doesn't give much regard to what has happened anyway...I say that I have been placed under a great deal of pressure with this company anyway and that I think in the end this parting will be beneficial.

Incidentally, I am the third person in a month to leave my very small company (about 15 people or less).

I leave, freak out after leaving in car, start crying and then calm down again.

Kept it completely cool during the whole talk and the whole cruddy thing.

Let it fly all afternoon and have been sick at my stomach the whole time.

Meanwhile, my xbf is in las vegas and has no idea I quit my job. He called right before I left town and said he missed me alot. He's gonna freak when he gets back wed. and they say that I have left. I have 2 paychecks to go...One month...Two months before I panic at all...
But I am still panicking.

I could not stay. My company does not stand up for me. They put me through this very kind of stress last year and after having me bust my tail for them, gave me a slight pay "adjustment" (cut) then promised me a raise that never happened...Meanwhile we get reimbursed pre tax dollars for paying for our own health insurance...and dental insurance...and no 401k...no saving plan...nothing...A lousy 250 bonus a year.

I should be able to get another job pretty soon...called a buddy of mine and he took me to lunch. He was appauled and shocked at it. He said that he was glad I quit that that's not the way to run a practice nor a staffing company...and he is clinical director of a large urban cardiac facility here. He's out looking for me now and is hunting down a few things. He was sooo nice and kind about the whole thing..

I would REALLY APPRECIATE

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REALLY APPRECIATE PRAYERS RIGHT NOW...

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REALLY APPRECIATE PRAYERS RIGHT NOW...

I can't eat. I can't think. I got partially blamed for a false positive that is not at all my fault.

Sometimes the pressures of being a single mom who's expected to be professional and hard nosed is a bit much...especially when you combine it with the recent divorce hell I went thru for almost 2 years...then I have ajob and have issues with it last year, think I am gonna lose it, have contract issues settle, keep it and then have issues lose it again.

The rollercoaster is NOT something I want to ride ever again. Plus, since moving here from another state, I have found out that I could make more...even working at a hospital vs. contract work or private practice...

Please pray and pray hard. Pressure is killing me ok?

I am sick and damn tired of carrying the load of what feels like the world on my back..alot of us here feel the same way too.

PLEASE ...PRAYERS AND SUPPORT...IF YOU KNOW ME, CALL ME OK?

I am unable to stop shaking. There is no alternative. Our company/former company has gone thru some strange changes and then even at the practice I was at, my former coworkers who do my very job, two have left in last 3 months. And with contract company, 3 people in last three weeks.

I am praying for peace, a good opportunity to come my way, resolution soon (need it within 2 months ok?), and a solid position for this time...NO contract work at all..even if it is fulltime and told to me to be permanent. Pray for peace that I don't lose all the confidence I had regained. I am floored at the words I heard today...how could a doc blame somebody without asking first what you did? Nobody ever asked me. Found out they DID question the camera company and the repair guy...but this is after the fact and still tried to circumvent the contract to get somebody cheaper. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I felt like I was professionally slapped in the face today.

I mean, for goodness sake, was state president of my society this last year. How could somebody say something about you clinically without ever asking you first??? That is uncalled for.

I know that the xbf will be shocked...as he's worked with me and around me and knows how good I am. No doubts there...my former workers know my abilities as well...

I feel low. I feel awful.

I want to just cry and wear sweats. This is almost too much for me right now.

Why does it seem whenever my life starts to go smoothly that something giant just pops up?

I have desired nothing but peace for the last 2 years. I have had nothing but unrest. I prayed for peace and just life to be easy...nothing super special, just not hard anymore.

I have been through having less time with my son and adjusting to the stress of being a single mom, having most of my material wealth lost, finding out that my xh has slept with half of atlanta, lived through the instant remarriage of xh and almost instant birth of child, credit ruined by xh, job stress last year (same time) and now this, and yea...did I mention I am still celibate? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

This girly girl is at the end of the proverbial rope.

And you know it's bad when an optimist says it is bad.

Please please please pray that an opportunity comes my way.

I want nothing but peace. Nothing but peace.

How I had wanted a few vacation days with my son this year. How I had wanted a little time.

I have 2 weeks now to do that I guess...but the fear and fright of the coming job separation keeps me from even wanting to seize this little time I have to take that time.

I seriously need some prayers and friends now...

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JP,

glad to see that your life was getting back together. . . its hard, very hard, and at a certain point, its better to take a lower paying, your are overqualified job for the stability, than a higher paying, less stable job. . .

the CFO or whomever is just blowing smoke up your butt about the lab report. . . they will use that to possible relieve themselves of paying through the unemployment banked amount that they have. . .

not that you aren't going to, and you know this already. . .I would start your job search immediately, and find a lower paying one asap. . . that comes with stability. . . its tough, it took me 3 years to get a stable job. . .. where i know more than the ttwo directors that i work for.. .

you will make it. . . its just that you don't know when at the moment. . .

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Word to the wise, may not help now but....

In my state, if they reduce your hours and you quit, you initiated the separation. They were cutting you back not letting you go, after all. And you will have a VERY hard time getting an unemployment insurance claim approved.

I would recommend taking the cut in hours and initiating the job search then and there. More than likely, working 3 days a week would pay more than your unemployment benefits, anyway. And, often, it is easier for the still employed to find work than it is for the unemployed to find work.

All that being said, let me add that I am very sorry this has happened. But, you know you are a good employee. You know you have good skills. You've been in tougher places than this. It won't be fun but you can overcome this.

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Hi, Peach,

I cannot really say much, except that I have been where you are for quite some time (since 2001), and so understand exactly what you are feeling. I am only now starting to see a light at the end of a long and dark tunnel, and I know you will, too.

Here are 2 books which I have found invaluable;

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/A...=2-1/ref=pd_ka_b_2_1/002-8504122-4177640

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/A...=2-1/ref=pd_ka_b_2_1/002-8504122-4177640

These books are outstanding.

If you need to talk, NinaToo has my email address.

In the love of Christ,
God Bless You and your son,
GB

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Ok Peachy, you are not the emotional woman who wrote this. You are a strong, capable woman who can do anything she wants.
So, what is it that you really want to do?
What is your passion? You like your job, so is there something you can do with it to make it even better? Can you be a contract worker on your own?

Remember, there are no closed doors, only opportunities. This was meant to be for a reason. Perhaps there is something better just waiting for you! That's what I'm imagining right now.

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Thank you thank you.

Wifty...you are wonderful...now explain to me about the whole if they cut you back, you don't get unemployment? I don't understand. When I started this job, there was a 2 week delay in getting another one. Luckily, I am blessed in working in a job where nationally there are about 15000 job deficit, thus, I am always able within a few weeks to get back working again. Today am personally hand delivering my resume to a hospital near my son's school, about 12 miles away in a rural GA area (but still very nice) and am going to see about that one. It is right along your advice. However, my buddy who is the dir. of cardio services for a large ATL hospital, said that even a hospital based department doing what I do would still pay either what I am making now or even a tiny bit more. He's also looking for me and is getting me more contacts today.
But stability is more important vs. slightly more pay...

It is definitely rough when you're a single parent. You feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. I am going to breathe a sigh of relief when I sign with a company with 1)good steady pay 2)better benefits (remember? I was only given a "cafeteria type plan" with pre tax dollars set aside so I could pay my own health insurance premiums?) 3)possibly a sign on bonus (the hospital I am seeing today is giving one and 4)the chance to work with the same people, get to meet friends, and to have the same work environment rather than bouncing all around from place to place as contract work does.

Cindy,thank you so much also. Your approach will work, but the office yesterday said that "since you're wishing to separate, we will not schedule you any work this week so you can do what it is you have to do". I understand this. And again, it maybe them saving their own butts by saying I separated or severed the relationship. Geez. all this job quitting reminds me of the legaleze and wording when I filed for divorce...

You sign a separation agreement with your spouse. You will sign a separation agreement with your job. Thus I guess in America we kinda marry our jobs. And that would be in line with what I did this last time. I married a job that was kinda like my x. Unreliable. Fast Paced. Not that many perks besides the money. Yep. Just like the x. Oh and I forgot to add..."unfulfilled". ha ha ha.

George, thank you. I will go and get the books. Which one helped you the most? I am sorry you've walked thru this road, but you will be prayed for and I will keep you in my prayers and know that you will get there...the light is there at the end of the tunnel.

I am a bit better today folks. But not much. I had actually a panic attack late last night. Were it not for the medical side to me, I would have not recognized it since it's been years since I had had a full blown one. No wonder cardiac work is busy...everybody has got to deal with stress like this and I know this is common.

Got a cup of hot tea, called a MB'er (old one) and took 2 tylenol pm's while we talked. It worked on the attack. Started to go away about 15 min. later. I don't believe in medicines solving every problem, and only time I ever took an antidepressant was during the peak stress time during separation and divorce hearings and even then not the whole time. We've been taught to help your own body help itself using relaxation techniques, etc...so I know if this happens again what to do.

Was advised by a close buddy back home who does what I do that I should, due to the extreme stress of this whole job thing and the last year, to immediately sign with a good job, but wait 3weeks and spend downtime with my son and just relax...maybe take a small trip back home with my son or something like that before I begin anew. She said that it is important to be back and at full throttle when you return to work and that when she went thru similar circumstance before she joined the group she's with now, that her stress from the previous experience trickled into her new job and she had serious problems the first few weeks.

Do you think it's a good idea? I have saved enough to do that comfortably?

Prayers prayers please. Please pray that I find a job soon. I need this. My son is the one who really needs it.

Cross your fingers...am going to repair a broken nail this morning, go get a great cup of coffee, get dressed up, go to kinko's and run off my new resume (worked on it for 3 hours last night late) and hand deliver it to the human resources office at the hospital...it's funny, but I prayed last night for a lower stress job, good income, better benefits, and one closer to my son's school and one where I wouldn't be driving an hour and a half each morning and an hour in the afternoon. I prayed that I got a job where I could find some great coworkers and friends since I don't have family here. I prayed that I would find a job that would allow me first to be the best mom I could be while meeting my little family's needs.

That is all I want. And then voila...there is the ad for the rural hospital near my son's school and the big lines under it "sign on bonus and very competetive pay"..the description said that it was a talented team of professionals working to make a difference in a family-centered health system.

I am afraid to get my hopes up. I have acutally driven by this hospital and always thought it was nice looking...pride I guess kept me from ever stopping.

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Peachy-

I don't have any advice to give that hasn't already been given, but I wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. You are a strong, intelligent woman and you will work through this.

Take care and God bless!

K

PS- I'd call you and tell you this personally, but I don't have your number!

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Positive Thoughts Peachy,

Read " The Prayer of Jabez" pray for what you want and it will be provided. I believe this will all work out better for you!!! I really do.

And screw the Disney talk from the other thread. It's just a place. There are many wonderful places to make happy memories.

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Hi, Peach:

How are you doing since your last update? Good for you getting your resume together! I have a broken nail, too, but I just bit it off LOL!

I would like to relate some of my life for the last 3 years so that you will know that you WILL make it;

My ex, from now forward reffered to as what'sherName (WHN) took off with my friend a few months after my Pops (my dad) died. A few months after that I got laid off from my job when the dept was eliminated. I am a C# and C++ computer programmer and I lost my job just when the bottom was droppoing out of the tech industry here. The timing was terrible, because I had already signed the separation agreement whereby I took on all of the marital debt, including a mortgage on my previously mortgage free house, before I lost my job.
In that time, I have worked as a deck-hand on a ferry, a data-entry guy for a grocery store computer system, a tree worker, and part time PC repair technician. There are some extremely bright and accomplished people doing jobs you would never imagine them doing. I know a man who has more than 15 patents who decided to come out of retirement to drive a bus, because he wanted to get out of the house and be with people. I have dug ditches with a man who has a PhD from the college of Pure Science, Columbia University, and know another computer programmer and electrical engineer who voluntarily gave it up to drive a milk truck, of all things, because he did not like the pressure of his job. I've got an MA and am a pretty fair computer programmer.
I am writing all these things to tell you two things; #1, YOU WILL MAKE IT. My little software company is finally starting to make some money. My friends who have had setbacks are starting to make it. YOU WILL MAKE IT!
#2, there are many, many brilliant people doing jobs that most would consider beneath them, but they are working and providing for their families with dignity and pride. There is no shame in any work. Christ Himself was a carpenter (something I have considered doing, because I love it so much).
Whatever job you take, and I pray that you are hired by this local hospital, it will be only a stepping stone towards better things. You will move from Glory to Glory.

God Bless You,
You will make it!

GB

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oh, and both of the books are great....completely different from each other, but great, both of them...both very inspirational, and you will get want you want and need.

GB

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Hi JP,

Sorry about your contract..not sure what you do exactly, I'm guessing stress tests and the like. Anyway, I would think in a field where they are 15,000 workers short you could find a better deal w/no problem. I'm a pharmacist and we're pretty much in the same boat. With your contacts through your state society I'm betting you'll have something better in no time! Hang in there...know all this is a hassle no matter how easy your job search might be.

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Newly...thank you my friend for your words..you're right. Words are from my emotional side which reacts to about 1/3 of the stuff right now...luckily the other 2/3 of my brain is still working...

Update: Cfo from my present/soon to be former company called and offered travelling position (one weeks' work) in chattanooga and birmingham. But I don't want contract work. And it would be for same pay, but 2 weeks working amonth. I am very nice to him and cordial. He also has been talking very behind the scenes with a cardiac group (very large one and where he used to be cfo) to see if he can do what he deemed "a surgical and seamless transition" and get me on with them asap...like within a day or so. No contracts, nothing. Just full time. I guess the company knows something is up and that they are regretting what happened yesterday. I had another email from one VP and he was very short, nice, and said he will be calling me asap. Again, I am not a bridge burning type. No sir. Not this chickiepoo.

Newly, you have the wonderful ability to as a friend, knock me upside the head and see me to see the sensible side of things...as does cindy.

Am briefly home as nail salon was busy with lunchtime fashionistas here in this area getting their talons sharpened...he he he. I have appt. in 20 min. and am as I type printing off my very cool resumes on nice granite parchment papers. I am going to casually stroll in this pm to the hospital and hand it off to the dir. of human resources. Meanwhile, I had emailed her first thing this am and she called back saying she "couldn't wait to meet me and that even though I said I was just bringing in the resume, that I could have a cup of coffee and talk to her a teeny bit"...sounds like an "un-interview" to me.

So praise God! There is definite interest in the job at the regional hospital.

Oh, and newly, I read Jabez a while back and will recite the prayer today again and continue until it is answered...!

George thank you for your words. You are so kind. And yes, there are incredibly talented people doing things that make them happy. I am one who has been doing what has made me happy, but however, the circumstances have not totally made me happy. Thus, am seeking happiness and have to find one job where the happiness and salary balance ok so I can do the single mom thing. I have so enjoyed getting to talk to you as I haven't much before btw.

Still Reeling: Thank you for your prayers and continued friendship. You have no idea how much it means seeing that my longtime mb buddies are here for me.

UpforAir: Sorry to hear your stbxh isn't coming around as quickly as we'd like him to...and yes, it's stress testing/cardiac I do. Thank you for again, prayers and frienship and above all encouragement. Have you talked to either the harleys or to cerri? They do good stuff. I am going to add you to my prayer list btw. I am so cheering that somebody on the d/d boards will save and reconcile their marriage. I have seen thusfar only a few of the ones here on d/d board, but am praying you're one who will!

Just got vmail from dir. of human resources...she is going to be in meetings all day but is wanting to already set up a time to interview me and have me meet their staff and see "how I like it". She said coffee is not going to be in the air this pm, that she was afraid she'd not have time since she earlier said she wanted to get coffee with me and talk...so I will instead go in, drop off my very attractive resume and leave <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Am going to relax a few minutes as these suckers print off and make another call to a large heart center.

Keep the prayers up. Keep em' going. I need encouragement ok? And one thing that is unfortunate is this...when you held an office like I did last year in my state society, there are certainly some people who'd love nothing more than to see you fail. I know that shouldn't matter, but I know deep down it does.

Meanwhile, my former company, myself, and my friend who's the clinical director are working to keep things "hush hush and on the qt" about the whole thing. I want this to be quiet, and nobody know until I sign on the dotted line about anything. Gosh I want this thing to remain quiet. I work in a small specialty and the gossip mongers would love this one...especially since it would involve me. When I went thru the divorce, and I quit my other job a year and a half ago due to excessive absences/court dates which were literally the next day after I'd find out about having to have the court dates, there were 2 people who were very "well meaning" on my board who said to my friend (clinical director) that I was doing good and managing to stay "pretty much" sane during all the stress with my husband cheating and stealing the money and all. They went on to tell him that they wondered how long I'd manage under this kind of intense pressure. Those are the people who'd just try to talk some more.

Gotta go.

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Just got in...haven't checked vmails yet. Brought the resume to the human resc. dept. Jeannie (person I was to see) was out in the meeting she had told me of. So I was very kind and handed it to her secretary with a smile. Good.

Got nail repaired and felt lost. I don't do the "nothing" thing well. I do not.

The uneasiness is creeping up again and I feel outta breath sometimes. I know what's happening and I am going to go to the gym tonight to try to work it outta my system.

I feel cruddy again. That whole "I am not in control of this" feeling is hitting again. That's what makes me feel yucky basically.

House is a mess. Going to try to clean it in a bit. I have little motivation to do anything but spend time finding a job. I spent five hours today scouring internet, etc.

It used to be so easy as a stay at home mom. It was a completely different world. One I can almost barely remember now. I can't remember when life was easy. Got asked out again today by a cute guy (one from new years') and a call again from swissboy who has been cured of the "committment willies". He was all sweet and kind and "oh sweetie. It is ok. You are smart and yada yada yada"...asked when he could come to visit and see me after he returns from nyc on friday. He claims he wants to "work things out" and is sorry for what happened last week. He does seem sincere...but then again, I watch actions and see if they match what he says. Tomorrow the poo will hit the fan as xbf comes back from vegas. He will find out the bru ha ha from work and will probably, most likely be kinda angry.

As for me, am going to relax tomorrow and continue doing the cleaning I am starting tonight.

More prayers. I feel this horrid feeling just creeping in again.

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Any way you can turn things with last employer around from a Voluntary Quit? Misunderstanding?

"I understand about this week but I am still available. I could work the following week if you needed for me to."

Something like that. Work whatever hours they could offer and, if you are earning less than you might be eligible for on unemployment, file in a couple of weeks.

Granted, laws vary from state to state but you might could find a way to end up being laid off rather than quitting. Do you know what I mean?

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Well spent the morning following up on some leads...heard back yesterday but haven't heard back today after turning in resume to the hospital near son's school. Nothing showing up other than that opportunity except for large hospital in urban ATL an hour away.. but work is work and I will wait and see about that one. Got 2 leads from my buddy who's the clinical instructor and followed up on them. Things are plugging along, but not as I would like them to...that would be at turbo speed.

Cindy, thanks for your good advice, but there is nothing really for me to do. I am "on the books" for this week and then on vacation the next 2 weeks basically. I will try what I can try...unemployment is a last option but a viable one...sixty percent of your income can at least pay bills for a while.

I am getting a bit done housewise. I stil feel awful and like the world is spinning around me...the brain is still working ok though. Haven't had panic attack yet. Haven't heard from xbf as I don't know when his plane is landing...I am SURE I will hear from him when it does and he accesses his vmails.

It is tough to just keep going sometimes. I swear, for the last 3 years it has been living thru one crisis after another....literally. And I am tired of the crisis. I want just ONE year of peace. One year of somewhat serenity. I want that sooooo bad.

Keep praying for me. And again...

IF YOU GUYS HAVE MY PHONE NUMBER CALL ME...I NEED ENCOURAGEMENT AND PRAYERS OK?

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Peachy ~ I will include you in my prayers. I don't have any other way to reach you, but I'm nearby just up I75. I know you're going through a really rough time of loss and personal shaking right now. Hang on dear one! God hasn't let go of your rope!!! He's got you!!!!

I do have some connections in ATL area medical care. One of my good friends and fellow church members is the CEO of one of the Emory satellite hospitals out in Smyrna. Let me know if I can help more.

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Hi, Peach,

I read your last post and it struck a chord in me.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> It is tough to just keep going sometimes. I swear, for the last 3 years it has been living thru one crisis after another....literally. And I am tired of the crisis. I want just ONE year of peace. One year of somewhat serenity. I want that sooooo bad.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The above is the paragraph. What you wrote does seem absolutlely true; One bad thing after another happens, one piece of crummy news on the heels of a long list of crummy things, and not just dopey, disapointing things; these are things that can ruin one financially, professionally and emotionally. Going to the mail (we do not have delivery here in Mayberry) becomes an act of bravery, because just opening the little box can bring on a whole new round of troubles and, with them, fresh and dizzyingly painful panic attacks, rollercoaster rides of depression where there is no rise to the top of the ride, just an ever steepening scream to the bottom of the 'pit'. 'Oh, damn, a phone call. Thank God I have caller ID, it is not the mortgage company, I can take this call.'
The ex has taken off. They are living the Life of Riley; no responsibilities (because they have blithely abandoned them), no cares, and things are just going their way. THEY have a SEX LIFE!!!!!!! How can this be? How can THEy have somneone in their bed while I am lying alone, because of I am following the teachings of my faith?
You are exactly right on with another point; I remember, very vaguely now, when I woke up next to the woman I loved; I remember when things were not chaotic ALL THE TIME. Wasn't there a time when I went to work, paid my bills on time and took my spouse out for dinner and then a walk along the sidewalks of the little fishing village where we live? Wasn't there a time when I came home to my wife throwing her arms around me, telling me she loved me? Did that happen to someone else? Feels that way. Somewhere, long ago, in a far away wood, there was a life that lives only in shadowy glimmers in the depths of my mind. Where did that life go? What bodysnatcher of a demon killed my old life, replacing it with this hideous, seeming replica?

Lemme tell ya this; You are not alone. You have God. You have friends here. You have your son. You have His Son.
I was talking to my priest today, and he gave em the Annointing of the Sick, because it looked to him that my Soul really was sick. WOW. What a Sacrament! I guess that you are not Catholic, but, if you know any in your area, they can explain. You have the same sort of thing in that your pastor can lend his ear, pray with and for you, and you can read His Word.

Here is where I go when I need Spiritual Uplift, and you sure as heck do not need to be Catholic to go here and get a great deal out of it, it is only prayer;

http://www.sacredspace.ie/

You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers. Peach, please, if you can, pick up the books I recommended. I got my copies in Borders.

YOU ARE GOING TO COME THROUGH THE OTHER SIDE OF THIS!!!!!

GB

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