I have just found out that my wife is having me followed and investigated by a private investigator. I honestly do not know why. Anyone have any suggestions on how I should handle this?

Scary. Have you spoken to her about it? That's probably the logical thing to do. Of course, my mind began racing to think of wacky things to do to torture the detective (think Eddie Murphy), but that may be counterproductive.

My husband has never cheated on me, but there are times when i feel he is. I have thought about having him followed, but relized i needed to trust him more. Mabey you are giving her some kind of mixed signals an she thinks something is going on. Mabey not as touchy lovie as you use to be. Just a thought. But i think the same as Sweetannie, an the fun i could have but i would let someone know first that i knew that would not tell your wife. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Doghouse,

I trusted my husband completely and never questioned him when he said he had to work late or was going to the hardware store, etc.

I trusted him right up until I got a call from a woman I had never met saying she had been having an affiar with my husband for 4 months and was pregnant with his child. After that, I went back over his credit card and cell phone bills and saw that their were "signs" there that I just didn't pick up at the time, because I knew he would never cheat on me.

It's been over 5 years since that horrible day and alot of counseling and hard work for us to pick up the pieces and put our marriage back together.

If your wife is having you followed, she must have her reasons. If you're in the "doghouse," you probably know what you've done to get there. Either way, I highly recommend some counseling and soul searching for both of you. The current lack of trust that exists between you will end your marriage if it continues. Good luck.

I am not doing anything to be suspicious of. My user name has nothing to do with my state of being either. I can't think of any thing I have done wrong in the last two years of our marriage. I am not always attentive as she needs me to be, but I am understanding of her needs. Yet, I work long hours at my job and do provided the support for the family.

She has complained recently that I am distant. Not sure what that means and when we try to talk about it, she usually says I am distant, bu then can't explain what it is she wants.

I have never given her a reason not to trust me. I just don't understand why she would have me watched.

Dog,

Are you sure she is having you followed? If she is it could just be her insecurities, or there is something, but you would already know that. Would it bother me? Yes, but if it made my W feel better, sounds like it could be a win win situation.