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Heres the deal. DH and I are separated. We live in Seattle but I am from NC. Months before this he was offered a awesome job there but wouldnt take it, even though it would have given us a fresh start. He is there doing a consulting job right now and is talking about staying. This upsets me so much. If I pack up and move back there I dont want it to look like I am following him, but I have no reason to stay here. I would have a totally new start, and a piece of land waiting for me next to my family on the lake no less. Why couldnt we do this in the first place <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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I don't think it would look like you were following him. What, besides him is keeping you where you are?
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The few friends I have and the fact my son is in a really good school. Other than that nothing.
He already said I would be stalking him, right after this post. BUt then he said "Why are you planning for something that may not happen" like it has to do with "US" I think he is afraid, and wants to work things out but doesnt know how. I told him regardless I plan on moving.
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You're not planning for something that may not happen.
This is happening. You 2 are seperated. Unless you have a plan to get yourselves back together, the options of what comes next are pretty limmitted.
However, Since I don't know much about your situation, I assume that your son is his also, so watch the threats of moving. You may not be able to without him or his consent.
What are your plans and expectations?
Do you want to work things out?
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OK I just read some of your other posts. Here are a few links you need to read through COMPLETELY if you haven't already! You'll lear lots that will help you, if not in your current situation, it will help YOU in the long run. Look into plan A. I realize that there is no afair in your situation, but there doesn't have to be for plan A to work. There was no Affair for me either, Ive been seperated for 17 months, D is going back and forth between lawyers, but I am still in plan A. Not to win my STBXW back, but because it is a good way to learn to treat people in general. After a while, it comes natural. Most importantly, watch out for Love Busters.(Like saying that you are moving no matter what) Good Luck. WIWH Basic Concepts Articles Q&A Columns
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No not his son so not an issue.. I will say that something I said changed him as today was the first time in almost a month that he talked to me on the phone and we talked for almost 2 hrs. So I think this might be scaring him. Not that that is my intention, but his attitude changed a good bit. Makes me wonder.
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I used to live in NC. A great little place to settle down! You have land and it's next to your Family.
What are you waiting for? I'd be on the next plane over there! Don't let some crap your EX (or maybe soon to be EX) says keep you from enjoying the rest of your life. A person needs to be near Family, especially later on in life. Don't fall victim to his 'guilt-tripping' or other BS he spouts. It's YOUR life now and you are responsible for YOUR OWN decisions, he isn't.
*This is only my opinion*
SDLOM
<small>[ January 23, 2005, 07:17 AM: Message edited by: Sauron The Dark Lord ]</small>
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