I need some help today. My story is a sad one but I have done my best to keep my head up. I have not posted in months but I have been there for my children all along and have cleaned up my negative habits and have been attending church regularly. My WW and STBX (just waiting on papers) has moved in her newly released from jail BF into the house with my children. I am very annoyed as she has told them to continually lie to me about anything and everything. He was locked up for drugs. He was the one who broke up the family. I am really angry because I have been fighting for custody and she was forbidden to allow any overnight stays let alone a permanent menace. My real problem is the children lying to me about all of this as I have been strggling financially and have paid support weekly. She has turned them completely against me. The judge has not handed down the final order yet but is there any way that I can introduce this provable information to him as she has lied about the situation in court? I just cannot believe the cruelty I have to endure from her and her family. This hurts so much I just cannot stand it.

<small>[ January 24, 2005, 03:35 AM: Message edited by: Pheonix_66 ]</small>

Phoenix, I soooo know how you feel! Especially about the kids - it just sucks.
File (you don't need a lawyer) with the court a "Motion To Show Cause" and you have to mail her a copy - she will have to file a written response and mail you a copy. When the Judge sees her lying - with your new evidence, it will make things easier for you. This was a very useful tool for me when I was in the same sitch as you and by the way - this turning the kids against you -- let me tell you: lies will only go so far and kids are not stupid. Kids will eventually get tired of her BS and lying and they will eventually return to you. Especially if you keep your head up, never slam your EX to them, only be truthful with them and you 'take the High Road' - believe me, it works.
It took 6 1/2 years for my kids to return to me, but now they are furious at their Mother and they have told me that "I'm the only 'normal' parent they have".
Phoenix, just pray, take the high road and give it time - your children WILL return to you!
God bless you my friend.
SDLOM

Sauron, thanks for the level headed advice. Right now the Ex is fighting to keep the kids at any cost. I contacted my attorney today and he is on the sitch. We have contacted pardons and parole and will have his PO testify to the judge. I will ask him to file the motion as he is still working for the fees. D not final. Her attorney has not turned in closing args yet.
Is there anything I can do to immediately have the children removed from the home and returned to me?

If you have paperwork that specifies that your STBXW was forbidden overnight stays, and you can prove that she has a "live in", I don't see how that wouldn't help your case to get the kids pulled from that situation, at least temporarily (I'm sure you're looking for permanence, but at least getting them out for now would be a start).

LL

LL has an excellent point. Also, what about Child Services in your area? Especially if you suspect or are sure the BF is doing drugs! Child Services do work closely with the Courts in cases such as this.
SDLOM