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I just noticed there's a new man posting here calling himself GRAND RAPIDS, MICHIGAN which is my town who says that he's recently divorced.


Anyone else here find someone recently divorced around the same time of your divorce of the opposite sex who lives in your hometown posting here?

Just curious <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Afraid not.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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This isn't a dating site!?
Go to yahoo or eharmony or match.com if you're interested in finding someone.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by adgirl48:
<strong> This isn't a dating site!?
Go to yahoo or eharmony or match.com if you're interested in finding someone. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Adgirl, I didn't mention this because I was looking for someone.

I thought maybe it was secretly my husband posing as a nice guy recently divorced trying to find ammo. against me to use in court. I mostly wanted to see if he would reply and say anything.

I AM NOT IN ANY WAY TRYING TO PICK SOMEONE UP HERE.

I said before in another thread that I wouldn't even go out to dinner while still married and have struggled with wanting to reconcile with my husband.

So let me repeat:

I'M NOT TRYING TO USE MB AS A DATING SITE!

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Well actually I didn't really mean for it to sound as harsh as it did. I wondered later if that ever really did happen- since it is the divorced board. hahaa.
And I was serious about those dating sites- I didn't know if you were separated or divorced.
No harm no foul!
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Oh, whew.

I thought oh, man, now I've got people ticked off thinking I'm using the MB to cruise for guys.
OY!

No harm no foul. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I guess it was a dumb idea, but I thought if it wasn't my H - the guy would reply and offer info that would show he wasn't my H.

Thanks for understanding. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Take care! Sorry for scaring you. hahaha.

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My ex found a forum that I used on a regular basis during our breakup and subsequent divorce. He used all the posts in court against me and also tried to use what I said out of context.

Please be aware that anyone needs to use forums with extreme caution. No mention of city, any type of identifying posts that could be used against you. Try and stay as anonymous as possible. If you feel that you are already "found", you may want to re-register with a different name and also change a few things (mention that you have 3 kids instead of 2), change the State/Province that you are from.

The internet has been a very safe haven for me for support and counselling, but in the beginning it wasn't so safe. Be aware of what you type in your posts. Good luck!

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Yeah, Elan, I thing the cat's already out of the bag for me.

I use my actual name as my SN.

I've been totally honest about everything on the MB. I don't think I could put in erroneous info. (i.e. 3 kids instead of 2)That's just not me.

I do hear what you're saying though. That's why I was a little anxious when I saw that guy posting under GR MI and wondered if it was my H posing as a nice guy but throwing in erroneous info (son - 8 yrs old & he's already divorced).

It's all true so I don't know how it could be used against me in court, but I'm still a little leary just the same.

He's already lying and trying to print me as some diva who always got her hair and nails done etc. So not true! I'd get my hair colored 4-5 times a year and I've never had nails done.

So I do worry about him twisting something.
That's where I'm counting on God to come in and open the eyes of the judge so that she can see through all of the crap and discearn what the real situation was.

Now that this is all going on - I wish I would've gotten my hair & nails done all the time. Then at least I would've had something to show for all of the years I've worked.


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