Why all the abbreviations on the signatures? Is there a reason people want to know the date they got a divorce or the date they found out their spouse was having an affair?

My wife told me she thought couples counseling would be a win for me. I look at it as a win for both or a loss for both. I wonder the same thing about the signatures with all the abbreviations or am I just way off base.

The signatures help a lot of us when we're replying because I'd have an entirely different take on a situation if a spouse is a serial cheater, or if there were several d-days, or if the poster has been here a long time, or has been divorced a long time.

Experience and time usually change a poster's perspective. Since most of the stages of recovering from an affair are the same, as are the stages of recovering from divorce, we have a feel where each other are.

Also, the signatures help save time and space for everyone. The poster doesn't need to repeat his or her story every time he or she posts. A quick look at the bottom will refresh most people's memory.

I don't see anything disrespectful in most of the sigs. There may be one or two.... who refer to the Ex as a Troll, and the OW as Monkeyho. But, then, they are divorced and don't give a fig what Other Persons or ex-wayward spouses think or feel about the matter.

You might find some help on deciphering abbreviations by checking out the 'Helpful Info' thread at the top of the Emotional Needs board.