I just wanted to get some advice on my crazy but horrible situation. I have not posted in quite awhile. H had an affair, was involved in pranic healing and beleived that our souls were not meant to be but that the OW and him had known each other in a past life etc. She does age regression and beleives the same. She has left her Husband of 25 yrs. My ex has moved out and has been out for over a year.

I have been served divorce papers. He wants his cake and eat it too. He wants half of everything, does not want me to claim any of his pension, he wants to have custody of the 3 kids who are 2 1/2, 6 yrs and 8yrs, but only wants liberal access. He is unwilling to take the children on the weekends, will not take them to sports, will not help during the week to take them in the morning after he has had sufficient sleep from night shift. I am trying to get a job I have just finished a year long course and I have had to put our youngest in preschool which is good for her but he wanted me to take her job hunting with me and he thinks It's ok.

I am living in the matromonial home and nothing has been divided as yet. He is angry and mad that I am still here but he refuses to have a four way meeting with our lawyers to discuss the children and the division of assessts and he just wants to go to court.

He wants keys to the house still yet he has locked me out the the shop, the other day I wanted to lower my sons bike seat but had no access to the tools. Then today I notice the car wash stuff was gone off the washing machine, I phoned him and he told me he put it back in the shop, I asked him if it would be ok if he changed the lock back to the other one but he said no and that I left the lock undone. Of course we argued and I said if you can have keys to the house but I can't get in the shop then maybe I should get bolt cutters and open the door. I have noticed many things go missing from the house a big picture, cd's a tape gun tools, they are not worth that much but its just the principle that he can come in here and take things without my knowledge and he says that I am whining and I tell him then why cant you go buy these things without just taking them, He claims all the tools are his yet there has been no agreement made but soon we will be going to court.

He is angry that he has to pay for us to live here, but he is sure not helping to care for the children to help with time so I can look for a job.

He came in today with his dad's truck and is now taking out all of his tools. I worry what he tells his parents. I have a pretty good relationship with them but how do you approach them with these issues?

Wow. Just call them I guess. If your relationship is that good then it seems like you could call them to talk, but be prepared. You have no idea what he's told them.

Would they think he's nuts to with this regression past life crap? (hope so) That's rediculous.

My WH had turned our garage into a recording studio and kept me locked out, EVEN AFTER HE LEFT! FOR A MONTH AND A HALF HE WOULD COME BACK TO THE HOUSE FROM HIS GF'S APT. AND HE & HIS BAND WOULD USE MY GARAGE AND MY ELECTRICITY THAT I WAS PAYING FOR TO HAVE BAND PRACTICE!

I say grab those bolt cutters baby !

One of the most liberating things that I did was to have my neighbor come over with an electric saw and saw that stupid lock right off the door. Then he gave me a new one to put on. Wasn't my WH and his friends surprised when they showed up at my house again and couldn't get into my garage anymore! HA!

DO IT!

Too bad if he's angry you're living there. He's the jackarse who wanted to leave to be with this OW right? Well, too honkin' bad! Pay up buddy!

Too bad my WH is stupid with $ and has nothing but toys for himself I can't use & debt he's trying to stick me with. (NOT MARITAL DEBT MIND YOU)

Keep going honey.
(I'm encouraging myself here too.)

Oh, I forgot. Don't worry much about the tools. We had tools here & I had a builder price out their value. Used tools don't fetch as much as you might think. So unless they're things that you will need to use, I wouldn't sweat it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks for the reply! I think he is nuts and his family is not proud either but of course he is still their son. I just want to lay it on the table in a nice way and say that things are getting a little ugly between me and him but it has nothing to do with them( his parents) its really hard because I am so close to his family and a few of his sisters I dont want to cause a problem.

On the other hand that is exactly what I told him that I was going to get the bolt cutters. All I wanted out of that shop today was some care wash, I was pissed after I realized it was not on the washing machine where I left it, I called him and sure enough he put it in the shop back where it was, He ranted and raved that everything in the shop is his, he has alot of tools and vacuums and saws and that sort of stuff, but our inside house stuff is mostly junky except for the big appliances, I know the lawyers have said its not worth it to fight over that stuff,Its just the principle of being in your home and one time I went to get the tape gun and its gone, I call him and he took it, what right does he have to take it out of the home he moved out of, tommorow I am going to talk to the lawers and get a lockmith in to change the house locks, I have no privacy at all. and to boot little things keep misssing all the time.

And yeah he's angry and *****y that he has the house and the van to pay for, he hates the fact that he has to pay spousal support, soon enough the house will be sold but only under the advice of my lawer. He lied to me a few months back wanted to borrow ten thousand dollars from the bank to build the deck on the house for more value, we got the money and then he went and paid off a seven thousand dollare debt on his Master Card and he would not let me see what was on the bill.

He owes half the house yet when the realestate people tell us to get the gutters cleaned and such re refuses to help pay someone to do it, He wants me to pay him to do it, yet when the house sells half the money is his anyway, Yet what I do on the home is not important like taking care of the kids cleaning house and toilets.

He had the nerve today to tell me that everything in the house should be his because it was paid for by his money and that he's the one who worked all these years. Yeah right, I did nothing but gave birth to our 3 beatifull children, breast feed them take them to sports do all the shopping but yet now he seems bitter that I did not pursue a career before but we both decided that I should be a stay at home mom.

All this pranic healing stuff has done him in, He even tells me he was pressured into marrying me by his parents which is bull, To be honest he looks haggard and is completly mad and bitter, yet I think he's suppose to be happy he has a new girl she's 10 years older, apparenly their souls are in perfect harmony. I cant fathom how these two people could have possibly left their families and her being ten years older and she knew he had kids how could she even have gotten involved it makes me sick! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />