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#783054 01/31/05 10:11 AM
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You'll never believe what happened last week! WH woke up! He came to me and apologized about his behavior past and current and begged my forgiveness. His attitude was very different than it has EVER been. I was very surprised, but cautious. I've been fooled before. But he is proving himself so far. I wasn't quick to forgive this time. I learned better the times before.

WH admitted he had been arrogant and proud and blamed me for problems. WOW! Never said that before. I had to pull out some of the info, but he readily admitted everything and agreed it was all wrong. He went right to the doctor, even though he said there was not reason. Said he hadn't been with OW. I said I wanted him to go anyway as a good faith gesture and he did. (All was negative, by the way.) He called my parents and apologized for his behavior that very morning. He also called our best friends and apologized to them. They sensed the change in WH as well.

We are seeing someone at our church tomorrow. Might end up back with MC, but I felt we needed some spiritual input at this point. The man we're seeing is a straight shooter that will deal with us directly, not in a passive manner that the MC sometimes did.

I'm watching his actions, but am genuinely hopeful for the first time in over 2 years. I really thought it was over. I guess that just proves once again the power of prayer.

I need to re-read some stuff on this site. We still have some issues to work through, but at least we're going the same direction now. What a relief!

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SS,

I know this turn of events must be a little unnerving, but if he really DID wake up, then it's really good news, too!

I'm not dying after my DV, but I sure would rather have been in a saved marriage with someone I knew and loved than facing my future alone.

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SS, Sounds like really hopeful news, scary but potentially wonderful. Let us know what happens...

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Wow, that's what we all hoped would happen to our WS's. I hope for your sake it is the real deal.

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SS - Glad to hear that your WH may be on the road to having a committed marriage w/you.

I prayed for my marriage - that it would happen to my WH - in the past year or so he has "said" he needed help, it was never my fault, etc. BUT, He never did anything to change. No IC, No MC, nothing...So give your WH credit for stepping up..

BUT - since he has had multiple A's still be on guard..He can fall off the wagon easily again. Don't be shy about checking up on him - don't allow your fear of catching him or a divorce allow you to back down from getting what YOU want from this marriage.

Hugs to you and I hope that he has "seen the light" and never, ever, strays again...Life is too darn short to accept 1/2 a spouse. I want it all..100% committment or NOTHING....

Stay w/us here on the BB - guess you'll be moving into the recovery section or Plan A/B...


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