Me and my husband has been married over a year now and we have been falling out over the most stupidest things since life's bread. Well when we first met, he told me about his previous marriage and how his ex-wife cheated on him. His mother is still friends with his ex-wife. Well we moved from Missouri to Illinois. He was looking for a letter from his boss for work and I was helping him look for it. I accidently found a letter from his ex-wife, stating how bad he treated her when she first was diagnosed with cancer. She was confronting him about when he lied on her, saying that she overdrafted in checks when he had the money to himself when he was overseas. I read the letter and it showed that he had two sons and he never told me about it. He kept on saying that he does not have any children and that he always wanted a daughter if he wants to have any. I tried to talk to him about it and he gets very defensive. That why it is hard for me to try to talk to him about it.
What I really need to know is why he did not tell me about him having children? Any possible reasons why?

I don't know, why don't you ask him?

I TRIED TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT AND HE GOT OFFENSIVE AND KEEPS ON SAYING THAT HE DID NOT HAVE ANY CHILDREN. SO I DONE ALREADY WENT THERE.

legit-writer: I wish I had the answers for you. Have you spoken with your H's family... surely they would know if he has children. Maybe you could ask your H to let you call his ex, just to clear things up. If he in fact has no children with her, what would be the harm?

Other than that, I don't know.

I'm sorry that the other poster seemed harsh, he must be one of the lucky ones in a "perfect M"... but for the rest of us mortals, questions arise. Please let us know if you make any progress!

Best of luck!
-mcnyh