I’ve read the post hear about dating while you are separated, and I agree with the majority of you that say that it is a no-no. I can’t seem to find the scripture that says adultery is OK as long as it happened to you first. (and I’ve been looking for it) What I want to know is how do those of you in my situation fight the temptation of starting a relationship?
I guess I should tell you my situation. In a nutshell, my W had an A and had no desire to end it, after several months of me trying everything to convince her to stay, she left. She moved out about a year ago, there is no chance of reconciliation and we are pretty much waiting for our D to finalize (I’m guessing June or July) Over the last year I have “overhauled†myself. I changed my diet, got on an exercising routine, stopped watching TV and spent that time reading, I started a journal, I got more involved with my Church and have gotten closer to God. I am now stronger spiritually, mentally, and physically than I’ve ever been in my life. It is funny how my W’s A was the worst and the best thing that has ever happened to me. I like to think that I’ve been blessed with scars.
Now with that said, it’s no fun coming home to an empty house every night. I have lots of friends but they are all men and I think most men would agree that it would be nice to have a woman around to talk to once in awhile. It has always been easy for me to say that I’m not going to get into a relationship until my D is final because I don’t know anyone I would want to get into a relationship with. Until this week. I meet someone this week that I would like to get to know better. I’m not here asking for permission, or justification. I’m asking how do some of you who are in similar situations as me fight this temptation?
