I became a member here along time ago. I tried to repair a marraige with a woman that didn't want to repair it and too many things that went wrong. I've read the books and the website but I could not get through to her. In 1991 we married, too young, I was 23 and she was 20. We had a son that was 15 months old, so we started out with some heavy issues. With in a year we started to not give each other what we needed to stay in love. We got pregnant again and in june of 1994 we bought a house and had twins within a month of each other. Through out the years we kinda just got by. In 1996 we got some counceling because she found more comfort with another man. She wanted out I wanted it to work. The couceling never touched on what I needed. She never really wanted to do what it took to make it work only to do what she felt like doing. It should all come naturally, right. Well I started to dring more beer and started to not want to be around her, I stoped doing things to make her happy because I didn't get anything back from her. In Nov of 2004 she told me that she wanted out, that I was drinking too much and she didn't love me. I stoped drimking so much and started to do the things that she liked for me to do, this made her really mad, she asked why she wasn't good enough 2 years ago and that there was no way counceling was going to work for us. She said she would go but that it would be a waste of time and money. I love this woman and my children but maybe she is right, maybe we should have never gotten married. We are still going to go to counceling because we need to be able to talk to each other when this is over. I pray everyday that the counceling will trigger something in us to want to make it work. I've tried everything that I know how to do now I must put it into Gods hands, something I should have done a long time ago, and pray that it will all work out. Pray for me and my family.

How sad.

MoreFNGs, you say you love your wife but you get nothing back from her. What do you love about her? Are you "in love" with her?

You also said you were hoping counseling would </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">trigger something in us to want to make it work </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">. Do you want to save your marriage? Or are you done?

I'm trying to figure out your feelings.