Just found out this mourning that Friday my divorce is final. I knew it was coming soon. Lawyer told me most likely a month after we signed our agreement papers. That was just last week.
I'm not going to be there. Live in a different state and there is no desire to be in court for this.
I was blessed (and it was a blessing because I prayed for a good lawyer) with the settlement. My lawyer didn't know everything, but she treated me fairly. And this is comparing WH lawyer to mine.
For the most part I've accepted the divorce. This just makes me sad. After 16 years of marriage (15 married as a couple). The ending is sad.
Gotta buy myself something. This is not a female thing. During the marriage always last in getting something for myself (new outfit, pair of shoes, even going to a movie). Getting a divorce has opened the box on me.
Only question out of everything I wrote is, anyone have any ideas what to buy or do? After your divorce (those who are) did you do anything, buy anything?

lost,

I don't know what to suggest for a woman but I came home that morning, did a little cleaning and waited for the kids to get home from school.

Then I took them out to dinner, someplace the EX didn't like, but we do, and ordered ten of every flavor of wing they sell and we chowed like hogs. The 5 of us had a great time and it was very cathartic because the kids knew we were divorced that day and they needed fun too.

Then I stopped at the liquor store and bought some of my favorite single malt scotch (something I got to buy maybe 3 times in 13 years because EX would ***** about the price) and that felt good, even bought the big bottle just because I could....lol...and poured a glass and drank it to her health...with a big crap eating grin on my face....

So I guess my advice would be do something for yourself, something you wouldn't or couldn't do for whatever reason while you were married. It will feel good! Promise.

RebornMan

Well, I bought a house.

That night, after going to court, my D/D friends went out for a drink to "celebrate". It wasn't so much of an end, as a process, but it was still cathartic.

I like that -- something you always wanted, but couldn't/wouldn't for whatever reason when you were married.

I'm thinking I'll get myself the Bose wave radio, I've always wanted one, but stbx always complained about the price.

Let us know what you decide!!

I haven't bought anything yet.
Worked all day Friday and Saturday (over 12 hours/day). Would have worked today but my DD is sick.
Friday came and went. Didn't really get sad that day like I thought I was going to. For the most part I accepted that it was going to happen.
Talked to WS 2-3 days before Friday and he talked about marrying OW sometime in the future.
I had several moments when I thought to myself. I tried (WS even states that), he's the one that will have to be accountable in the end for the divorce.
Think I'm going to buy a bed. Last new bed I got was when I got married (over 16 years ago). New bed for new beginning. And I plan on taking my kids to "Medevil Times".
Money's tight, but sometimes you got to choke it up and say "this is important"

Wow.. how fun. I have a habit of buying myself something special when i end a relationship (even dating).

Since you don't have anything in mind, I would suggest looking around your place and seeing if thier is something you want to get rid of or replace/update. IF you don't see anything there, just make yourself a budget and spend the day shopping. Take out your girl firends or go by yourself.. go to a restraunt you love, get a spa ped/manicure and just look at everything that is out there. Walk around knowing that this buy is based on what you want and nobody else has a say in it.

This way you can get a variety, something to wear that makes you feel sexy... a trivot to keep in you house that reminds you of this step in your life.

My friends are taking me out to get another tatoo when it is all finalized.