For those of you with school aged children who are divorced, I'd love your input on this thread:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=024208

You said: "...But I'm concerned about her views on weddings, marriage and divorce.

A few times now she's come up with phrases like "I can't wait til Mommy and (Hubby) get divorced and she marries someone else so I can be in another wedding and I'll be old enough to be a juniour bridesmaid." She was a flower girl three times in an 18 month span, including for her dad and for me. She loves weddings, but she's very casual about the idea of marriage and divorce."
I see why you're concerned. My take on this is that she already has a very cheapened view of the Sacred Vows of Marriage - to her they mean very little - coz of what she sees her parents do. Parents have a profound influence on their children, and in this case - a BAD one.
I also see that any marriage this child enters into is NOT going to last - not unless she has a big change in her way of thinking.
Just my opinion..
SDLOM

W8ing,

I would say that your daughter needs extra attention paid to this issue by you. What you told her was good, just look for chances to bring it up and reinforce your beliefs whenever possible.

Kids growing up in a split-up family are always going to have more confusion about these kinds of issues. That's why D is so bad.

You said that your daughter loves weddings. I'm sure a big part of this is that she just remembers how much fun those particular days were and thinks it would be fun to do it again. She's not old enough to really grasp what it all means, she just had a good time. That's the most important thing to kids that age most of the time.

I would be concerned, but as long as you keep up the communication I wouldn't worry about it too much.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Sauron The Dark Lord:
<strong> I also see that any marriage this child enters into is NOT going to last ...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You're right. Eight year olds should know what a good marriage is, and how to choose a good spouse, and all about the work that goes into a marriage. I'm sure that children from strong marriages never get divorced. That was sarcasm.
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I'd appreciate criticism of this:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=024226

I think you did an excellent job. There is lots of wisdom on those pages you put together.
PS - I probably was kinda like, fuzzy, ya know, on how I worded my initial response to this thread - I was talking about this child having a distorted view on marriage now and as she grows up it would not probably change and she would go into a marriage as an adult with the same views as she has now - because she is following bad examples. JMHO. SDLOM