Well it has been a few days since I have said anything. She moved out on Friday am for 10-14 days to find out what she wants. Initially it was very hard b/c of my daughter. The strange thing is that she is the one calling me. I haven't called her once yet. She has cried saying she is sorry but I started thinking of this as a "business" decision, no emotions. I am working on me and doing great. I got some interesting news yesterday that she is miserable. I am starting to weigh the pros & cons of our relationship. A lot of cons at this point and not to many pros. I know that this is true b/c I have a bad experience at this point. I feel more confident, I am in better shape, I know that I will be better b/c of this, and I will not have a problem finding someone else (not that I want to).
She is coming to some very harsh realities. Being alone is the biggest I think & not knowing what I am doing or who I am w/. I am honestly stronger inside and out. I will make her earn the divorce if it comes to that & 10-14 days doesn't seem like enough time to decide for me but she thinks she can. I have great support throughout all of this from her family, friends, my family & everyone else. She didn't realize that no one would see her point of view and people are cutting off ties w/ her.

ees: Sounds like a lot of changes occurring right now in your life and you are handling things very well. It's good that you are taking care of yourself. I think she's going to realize she made a big mistake over all of these choices she made. You've also done everything you can up to this point. You really seem to have tried to reach out, tried MC and she's got the issues that need to be addressed. Good for you for trying to live your life as best you can under the current situation. Stick with your plan. Your have kept your dignity. I wish you well.

I can honestly say that I don't think I could of made it this far w/o all the help & encouragement that everyone has given me. I feel like a career change will help me too. I have been looking at all aspects of my life and there is alot to change. It is hard to say but have been doing my pro/con list of our relationship. I am definitely the giver in the relationship. I have been taken advantage of and the o.m. has assaulted me. Assault is the word that I have been looking for.

I remember when my third wife told me she didn't love me and she never loved me. It was so devestating, but looking back I can see it was one of the best things that could have happened to me. I was so in love with her that I was blind to the fact that she treated me like total crap. It's important to realize that all the pain you are feeling now is transitory. It will go away and when you look back at it eventually you might be like me and realize that it is the best thing that could have happened to you. She may be cheating with every man at her office or worse, and you are so in love with her that you can't see the signs. In my case, it was only looking back at it that I see all the signs that my wife was getting it from everything you can imagine.

Just my opinion.

G