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I'm still married (5 yr) and want to work it out.
My wife says she is not in love any more and wants seperated.
She says that she disrespects me for STAYING with her through all of the fights, lack-of-sex, yelling at me, etc...
I don't get it...
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I could be wrong, but that sounds like her own self-hatred talking. She is saying that anyone who would stand by her is not worthy of respect because she is not worth staying with or being loved. Remember Aesop's fable about The Man, the Boy, and the Donkey? Making your choices in order to win the respect of others is a good way to drive yourself crazy. I try to make my decisions according to whether (a) I can respect myself, and (b) I believe I am living out God's will for me.
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Gnome, thanks for the link to Aesop's Fables.
This situation reminds me of the old Groucho Marx comment: "I wouldn't join any club that would have me as a member".
She is a very confused woman, who obviously needs more help than her husband can provide.
<small>[ February 25, 2005, 04:58 PM: Message edited by: JustinExplorer ]</small>
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I have mentioned it before in other post, but there is a great book about Tough Love by James Dobson. It is a Christian book that you can get at most Christian book stores, but it addresses that specific subject. I highly recommend it. You , your wife, and your marriage will be in my prayers.
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