My wife had an affair. I've been trying to get over this for 6 or 7 months.

It just isn't working. I can't get past the hurt. I've tried my butt off to try and get past this. Trying to get our marriage past this.

While things have gotten more civil. The marriage isn't meeting my needs. My wife doesn't care to try and meet my need. I'm not trying to be demanding. I don't set expectation for her.
High bars for her to meet.

I just still feel empty and alone. I've felt this way for far too long. I'm tired.

At this point I just want to end this marriage.
I don't want to be hurt again. I'm sick of the conflict. I want to be happy. I want her to be happy.
In both cases we aren't happy.

So my question:
How do I proceed? How do I begin the end. Where, what, how, are the first steps taken.
While this tears my heart and soul apart, I can see no other way out. I can't continue living in constant pain.

Thanks you for any advice

DD

If she has completely ended the affair adn wants to rty adn make it work thenm you might want to try. Divorce is so sad and painful for all involved and having visits with your kid is definitely not the same as raisisng your kid. I am in the process of trying to get the courage to get a divorce, but my HUsband's cheating as been very repetitive and it does not appear in any way or form that he is going to start being faithful or honest with me about anything. My heart aches for my kids when I picture them not having their Daddy around the way God intended.