I have been married to a man who has over the years (25+) increased his smoking of marijauna and drinking to the point it is most definitly an addiction. Recently I found out he was responsible for providing our youngest son with marijanua which helped to trigger a mental episode resulting in his hospitalization. My anger has peaked to where I don't know where to turn.... I don't know if we will ever be where we once were or if I am just living a loosing battle. He has asked me what does he need to do and my answer is always the same.... quit both!! But he either won't or can't....People who know or meet him think he is just wonderful and I know if I leave I will be the "bad" one. Living this way is slowly taking it's toll. Some have said I need to "get over it" since marijauna is so accepted but I can't. Am I so wrong?... I have read that until the addiction is handled there is not much else these methods can do.... but isn't there something for those of us who must live this life daily?