Hi,
>
> I hope you can help me to get through the crisis
> that I am going through. On 1/1/05 I asked my
> husband if he was having an affair and he said yes.
> He said that he has been depressed and felt guilty
> and ashamed about the affair. I asked him what he
> wanted to do and he said that he wants a divorce as
> soon as possibile. The next day he moved out and
> found an extended stay hotel where he has been
> living since he moved out. I tried to let him know
> that we could get through this. His reply was he
> doesn't think he can't get over the fact that he had
> an affair and doesn't want to live under a
> microscope. We have paid a retainer to a
> mediator/lawyer to complete the paperwork for us,
> we just have to agree on the division of property.
> Our 16 1/2 year old son will live with me. I feel
> as though I should not push the reconciliation
> matter anymore and just let the chips fall where
> they may. But I am still in-love with this man.
> Can you give me any pointers on what I should do. I
> will
> see him this Sunday when he brings over information
> to complete our taxe.
>
> Desperately needing your help and insight,
>
> God Bless

I surely don't have any advice to give as I am in the same position as you. I am waiting for my appointment to see the magistrate in April. I love my husband with all my but he insists on the DV.

I understand the hurt you must feeling and I wanted to tell you can email me anytime you feel like talking.

Take care.

Please post this on the general questions board also. If you H is having an affair of course he wants a divorce they all say that. It's "fog" talk.
There are many people that are in the same boat you are in and can direct you.

When my ex left he said all the classic stuff too, I wanna divorce, I don't think I ever truly loved you (that was the dead give away he was having an affair), I'm not the type of husband you need (which he wasn't totally wrong),etc etc After a year of being seperated and him living with the other woman (ow)I got tired of living in limbo I would ask him when he would file...no answer. 16 months late I filed so I could get on with my life.

I didn't know about MB so this place will give you some great help. Sorry you are going through this

<small>[ March 02, 2005, 07:22 AM: Message edited by: Enchantedlady ]</small>