OK folks. I finally got ME head out of my BUTT. My h has been walking all over me and I have been letting him call all the shots. NO MORE.<BR>Yesterday, he came to pick up d and was gone 5 hours. I had no idea where they were, no idea when they would be back and H decided to turn his cell phone off, so I couldn't even get ahold of him.<BR>When he finally brought her back, I had a visitation schedule ready for him (since he has been to busy to do it himself-I waited long enough) and also stated that him and I are no longer to have any contact (NO PHONE CALLS)<BR>anyway, when d got home, I asked her what she did with daddy and she said absolutely nothing. Granted, she is only 2, but this child CAN speak. I asked several more times over the course of the evening and still got nothing.<BR>Before she went to bed (she was having and snack and wathing a movie) I asked her one more time and she said" I scared".<BR>OK, I'm P***off NOW. Then, after I finally got her to sleep (long after her usual bedtime) I put her in bed and she starts talking in her sleep. She said, "Where you taking me, no daddy, I scared".<BR>Ok, now I am out of control. I took a deep breathe and calmed myself down.<BR>I called my H on his cell phone (the only way I can get ahold of him) and asked him to explain what went on. I was very calm and very matter of fact. I was proud of myself.<BR>When I woke up this morning, I still wasn't able to shake this feeling that something was wrong. I called my attorney and asked him some questions. He advised me to stick to the schedule that I came up with ( since h doesn't seem to have the time to respond to my petition either- no money you see), to have a 3rd party present when he picks her up and drops her off and that he needs to leave he phone on when he has her so that I am able to contact him if I need to.<BR>I called my h this morning, and asked him once again what happened yesterday. He got bery beligerent ( something I am becoming very accustom to) and called me a bag. He wanted to know why I was doing this, blah, blah blah. Once again, I held my own, staying firm and not raising my voice. I told him the things that I talked to me attorned about and he said the we were going to war. I said fine, I have my armour on (GOD). <BR>I will go to the ends of the earth to save my daughter and that is what I will do. To H*** with him. He left her!<BR>Sorry this is so long. I'm feeling like I finally have a little control.<P>Cheryl

ceecee -- I am glad you are back, and I think you handled this situation very well.<P>I have been one of those men who was shafted in court when it came to my daugther, and I did nothing wrong, but from what I have read of your story lately, I think you should really take him to the cleaners. If your daughter is scared of your H to the point where she wouldn't even tell you what she was scared of, then SOMETHING IS VERY WRONG.<P>Cheryl, take care of yourself and your daughter. Let your lawyer take care of your H.<P>God Bless

ceecee, <BR>How old is she? Upper end or lower end of 2? I have a 2 year old (lower end) and am wondering if maybe they told her not to tell you something or inferred it would be bad if you knew? I know my daughter gets "wierd" under those kind of circumstances. My other daughter (6) when she was 3 or so, however, had a different approach: We mentioned not to tell my folks I was pregnant just yet, and during dinner with them, she said "I'm not going to tell you what mommy has in her tummy!"<P>I love the honesty of children! Pray God's safety over her and keep us posted!<P>Tracy<P>------------------<BR>"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me."

Good Girl! Now remember, Emma WILL open up to you. Stay in touch w/ your attorney. Great idea about the 3rd person. I've gotta go - two girls yelling my name - but I'll be back.<P>Lori

Good Job! I'm so proud of you for being so strong. What do you think scared Emma so much. Do you think that just being with him without you scared her? Did he take her to OW's and that scared her or something else. I know it's so hard to read a 2 yr old but I think that you did the right thing by contacting the attorney. That baby is your main priority right now. Again i want to say I'm really proud of the way you handled him today. Talk to ya later!<P>Jill

Cheryl,<P>To most who know me I am just a really big teddy bear. However, where my children are concerned I become extremely protective! If he's misbehaving with your child...take all steps neccessary to protect her, even if it means having to go to supervised visitation. If you truly suspect something amiss, talk to your lawyer about that. I'm resonably sure that any judge would back you up on that if you have reasonable suspicion.