Well gang here I am agian. Things have gone not too bad for me lately and me and the GF are getting married in two months(maybe)she got her divorce and is suppose to be moving on with her life with me buuuuuut she still remains in contact with her former spouse. Now I'm not a bad guy nor do I wish to be a A-hole here but how much contact should be normal with two form spouses when it comes to the children.She says she wants to remain freinds so they can comunicate when it comes to the kids,fine no problems cause they are his kids too but when he comes around when ever he feels like it and she does nothing it puts a strain on our relationship cause I want us to have a quiet life together without him rearing his ugly head to remind us he is there.
Being in this situation is new to me and I want to know from other how they handle this situation or from those who are in her her shoes. What is normal contact between two former spouses when it come to children?

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